How do deal with a grandma who tells your son you are wrong?

Amanda - posted on 07/24/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am a single stay at home mom to an almost five year old. We live with my parents because money is to tight. Lately I feel like my mom under minds me in front of my son because she can. Like tonight. I said no movie because it was already 8pm. She said which movie are we watching it is summer who cares about bed time. She turned on Netflix and picked a movie. Come bed time at 10pm he was crabby. I was left to deal with a child who was over tired, has a cold and will not take anything for it. He even threw up because he was crying so much. I am the one who has to get up at night with a sick child, not her. I have told her that just because we live in your house doesn't mean you can tell my son that I am wrong in front of him. I know its confusing him and he shuts down and wont talk at all when he gets upset, because I try to get him to talk and grandma just tells him to suck it up. He is four he shouldn't suck it up. It doesn't matter how many times I tell her my son my rules she just does what she pleases. Even my new sister in law can not stand they way she under minds her with her one year old daughter. She is about to lose not only me but her grandson because I am ready to walk out the door and not come back. Any one else had this problem and how did you fix it?


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Ashley - posted on 06/16/2017




I'm having the same problem with my own mom who is my 3 year old son's grandma. And I can't handle it anymore she over steps boundaries all the time im really ready to move out because I can not have my son see my mom yell at me for not allowing her to parent him like she is his mom which she is not I am my son's mother and I should have to fight for that title

Firebird - posted on 07/24/2012




Put your foot down. If you say it's bedtime, and grandma says it's not bedtime, you simply say to your son "I am your mom, and I say it's bedtime." Then you take your child to bed. Your mother only undermines you because you let her. Cut her off before she even finishes her sentence. She won't like it, but you have to put your foot down. Either she will accept your authority as mother or you'll have to find a new place to live.

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