How do i control my emotions on the job

Kyle - posted on 03/09/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am starting the Police Academy this month and I am concerned because I can no longer seem to control my emotions. I started noticing it about 2yrs ago. When I get really frustrated, or overwhelmed or keep trying and trying at something and just can't do it. I break down.

Even if I am not overwhelmed or contiuously trying to do something. It can be something little, saying a speech in one of my college classes (and it is not the speaking in front of people that gets me started, it is the topic I am speaking on like animal abuse), or confronting a teacher about a grade I feel is wrong.

If I am going to be a cop, I NEED to learn to control my emotions. I can't be at a scene and bust out crying in front of someone I am arresting because they neglected their child or their dog.

I try to breath but then I still think about whats going on, when I try to think "don't cry" I start to cry, I need some tips on getting this under control.

I am not depressed or anything like that so I don't think that is it either.

I cry out of no where for no reason. PLEASE HELP a to-be officer with unusually sensitive emotions.


Amy - posted on 03/09/2012




I agree with Krista, you should probably find yourself a therapist so you have someone to talk to since you can not really rule out depression, you just don't think your depressed.

As a police officer you are going to face some pretty nasty things that are really going to test you, and even if it's not depression your going to want someone to be able to speak freely with. My husband is a police officer and it's a tough field to be in. It can become very isolating because you try and shelter your family from a lot of what you face which in turn can lead to some serious problems like addictions, gambling, drinking. Good luck with the academy!

Krista - posted on 03/09/2012




Don't think "don't cry", because then you're thinking about crying. Try to think of something totally unrelated.

If you cry out of nowhere for no reason, then I really don't know if you can conclusively say that you're not depressed. At the very least, there's SOMETHING going on that has reduced your emotional resiliency. And if you're going to be a cop, you're going to need all the emotional resiliency you can get.

I would suggest finding a therapist -- one who you feel comfortable with -- to figure out why you're wearing your heart so much on your sleeve lately, and to perhaps work on some coping skills to help you better process your emotions.


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