how do I cope with this seperation?

Lan - posted on 04/03/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




Im a working mum, and had to leave my 15 month old son with my husband and his granny for a 3 month course away from home. It was a very difficult position I was in, and had postponed this for a year before finally deciding. On d first week, my husband and I talked by skype and I spoke and sang to my baby as well. What I don't know is if he recognized me? Anyway, my husband said our son did not sleep that night, that he cried mama so many times during the night. I have never felt the same since. I know he is in good hands as my husband is a good father and our son is at home where he is comfortable and still has his usual routine, problem is I can't concentrate anymore and I'm loosing!


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Armida - posted on 04/04/2011




Aww, my heart goes out to you. Is there any way to find another job? A job where you don't need to be away to long? Your baby is your priority. You are a good mom worrying for your little one. They grow so fast and every moment you can spend with them the better for the baby. And yes I work outside the home too. I drive 2 hours and back forth to work and all I think about is being with my boy. Hang in there I hope this helped.

Louise - posted on 04/04/2011




It was not really fair of your partner to tell you he was calling for mummy all night. That was just insensative. i am sure he has settled into his routine and is not having problems sleeping any more. you are now left guilt ridden I am not surprised you can not focus. What you need to do is take a couple of days away from skype to refocus your mind on your work, your baby is fine you know that he will not forget you in three months and if he does he will soon recognise you again within a day or so. Children are so versatile and adapt quickly. You on the other hand need to look long term and see that what you are doing is going to benefit your son. Step back from the situation for a moment and focus on the long term.

Carol - posted on 04/03/2011




This is so much harder on you than him, just try to keep focused - call when you can - remember you are taking the course to better your life and his. You know he is safe and well cared for, Granny is probably loving the time she gets to share with him. do your best there and check in every night or when you can. Stressing from afar only hurts you , so focus on the task at hand, do your best , enjoy the few hours of Me time you have. You are allowed to focus on yourself once in a while. I am assuming you will not have the chance to retake the course. Make the best of it - keep in touch and you will be home before you know it!

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