how do i deal with my 3year old daughter who is only acting out because of the nasty divorce i am goin through.

Amber - posted on 09/05/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




i am tryin to make it as pain free as possible on her and my younger daughter but he wont agree with any thing and it is wearing my 3 year old down. any advise what so ever that might help? she is screaming hitting kicking and biting.


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Amber - posted on 09/10/2011




he is acting more like a kid than she is... he said that if he got his hands on my girls i would never see them again... how do i let him be involved when he keeps threatening to take off with them.... i have begged and pleaded with him to think about the girls, but all he thinks about is his own revenge because i actually called it quits.....

Arielle - posted on 09/06/2011




they have therapists out there that deal specifically with little ones like ur daughter, maybe u could look into something like that to see if it would help. hope everything works out

Katherine - posted on 09/06/2011




My 5 year old is acting out also. I am going through the same situation.

I make sure I spend time just with her.

I do everything JuLeah has suggested. It's so hard on them. Make sure he is very involved too. The transition HAS to be smooth.

JuLeah - posted on 09/05/2011




I don't have enough info to understand how this is impacting her.

You keep her away from all angry conversation and fighting

You never bad mouth him in front of her

She has been reassured this is not her fault, you love her, her dad loves her -

you spend time with her, play with her

you keep her routine as normal as possible, so you still do the bath story bed each night - she sleeps in her bed. Age three is far too young to go back and forth between houses

See, three yr olds live in the moment. They don't think about tomorrow or next week

So, she might miss her dad if he moved out, she might sense tension and need reassurance, but if her needs are being met (good food - sleep- affection - naps- play time) then I am not understanding why this is so hard on her

Kellie - posted on 09/05/2011




Try this community, the ladies there are full of excellent ideas for helping with children and difficult behaviour.

For myself, I'd say just keep reminding her that you love her and you're not going anywhere. When she's screaming, hitting, kicking and biting hold her and hug her if she will let you, if she won't then sit with her until she is calm and then ask her for a hug and tell her that you love her.

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