How do I deal with my BIL who compares, judges, criticizes and blames my 3 year old for everything his 3 year old does? I'm getting so tired of it.


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Gwen - posted on 07/23/2012




As his brother, it is your husband's responsibility to protect you and your kids and set appropriate boundaries that you both can be happy with.

I don't watch Dr. Phil often, but caught part of a show recently where he said, "You are each responsible for handling your own family. It's up to you to deal with your people and it's up to her to deal with hers." It's good advice.

Monica - posted on 07/23/2012




They live 4 blocks from us and it's my husbands twin brother which makes this even harder. I just don't talk to him unless I truly have to and visits have been decreased big time. Thanks for your story.

Amanda - posted on 07/23/2012




I had a family member pick on my 4 yr old a while back. Every thing he did was wrong, the poor little thing to do nothing right and he was being made an example of. My 2 yr old would do or say exactly the same thing and it would be cute. It was horrible.
I ended up having it out with them.

Luckily they live on the other side of the world so I don't have to deal with it, but I made it clear I wasn't happy with the way he was being treated and said it had to stop or we would be going home early.

If they lived nearer to me I would be limiting the time my kids spent with them and monitoring them closely while they are together.

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