How do I deal with my sons father if he cannont financially provide for.our son?

Talisa - posted on 11/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




My sons father is 23 & has never had a job.. how do I deal with him not being able to provide son after 2 years?


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LalaBoom - posted on 11/18/2013




If he "never had a job" then you knew this before you got pregnant and deluded yourself into thinking this will be the miracle that will change him.

You have two options,

1. Continue to do whatever you're doing now to support your child

2. Start a child support case anyways because at 23, he'll have to get some money and by then, he'll be in arrears ad all the $$ will go to you until CS is paid to date

Hope this helps!

Jodi - posted on 11/17/2013




I'm in much the same boat. In Australia, regardless of income, there is a minimum payment of $30 a month deducted from their unemployment, but I honestly don't know why they bother, because it doesn't even put a ripple in the cost of raising a teenage boy.....

Talisa, all you can do is make sure you have a child support case. If it is ruled he doesn't have to pay because he doesn't have the capacity, there isn't much you can do but wear it and keep providing for your child yourself.

My son is 16 now and he knows his dad has never contributed financially. He loves his dad, but he recognises that I am the one who has worked hard all these years (and his step dad) to pay his school fees, his sporting commitments, etc. I never badmouth his dad about it to him. I just shrug and comment that he can't afford it because he only works part time (truth of the matter is he a lazy ass, but I'm sure my son has that figured out too).

Amy - posted on 11/17/2013




The same way you've dealt with it till now. I'm assuming you are providing for your child. My ex can't provide financially for our two kids so it falls 100% on me. I don't get to see them as much as I would like to but I know someday they will realize the sacrifices I made so they had a roof over their heads, food to eat, and clothes to wear.

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