how do i explain the birds and the bees to my 14 year old daughter.


~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/26/2012




i also would start with asking her what SHE knows. She may tell you, or not...but it is worth a listen to correct any misinformation.


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Emily - posted on 03/26/2012




I would definatly figure out a way to talk to her ASAP!!! We had a girl in my school have her first baby at 14 1/2!!!!! (I'm 35 btw) I have been talking to my daughter about the basics since she was 5. And odds are she already knows way more than you think, or would like her to know, just make sure the info she has is correct.

Krista - posted on 03/26/2012




Wow -- you've left it REALLY late!

If you feel awkward, maybe start by buying her a good sex-ed book, like "Our bodies, ourselves", and you can leave her with it, and then periodically meet with her to discuss it and to see if she has questions.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/26/2012




I am actually surprised she doesn't already know, and you have not had the talk. I would start with why she gets her period. Give her a picture of the diagram of her body, uterus, felopian tubes, where the vagina is etc. Start from there, then start discussing all about sex. Really, don't wait or she will ask her friends and get lots of different information from another teen. I remember when i was a teen I was told by another girl that if you have sex on your period, and he cums, you cannot get pregnant. We all know THAT is wrong information. you want to be in charge of all the correct information getting to her. Even knowing how to put a condom on, and what rape is.

Tabitha - posted on 03/26/2012




Has she not had a health class in the last 3 years? That's usually included in the health curriculum from 5th grade on. Not that it's the school's responsibility to educate them completely. But at this age, she should already have an idea what the word means and what it's for. I don't think she'll run if you start talking about it...after all, she asked you what it is. She wants to know.

I would stick to technical terms so she doesn't get confused and make sure you point out that it's meant for committed relationships only as in marriage. You don't have to go into the greatest detail..."2 people that love each and are committed to other express their love this way and also to procreate." She'll need to know what sperm/eggs, penis/vagina all mean. You also need to make sure you touch on prevention of things like pregnancy and STDs. It will not be the funnest conversation you 2 will have but we all have to go thru it. Good Luck.

Joanne - posted on 03/26/2012




ty amanda: No she is a freshman in high school. Next year they have health class and i am sure they will talk about it than. I know her friends probably talk about it. The other day the word sex came up, and she asked, what is that? I really dont even know how to start it? she will probably run if i start talking about it.

Amanda - posted on 03/26/2012




First off dont call it the birds and the bees :0) Be honest, leave the converstion open for questions from her. Best place to do this conversation is in the car, less eye content (so she cant tell how uncomfy you are) and she cant run away.

Im just wondering at 14 has she not taken sex ed in school?

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