Yvonne - posted on 04/15/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )
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My mother passes away and I was not there. She was in the hospital for 6 days and I was with her the whole time. They said she was terminal and had about a week to live. I took her back to her assisted living apartment and hospice took over. This was Wednesday on Thursday she became unresponsive. I went home to get some rest planning to return early the next morning only to receive a call at 5am saying she had passed. No one told me she was that near death and I cannot forgive myself for not being there to hold the hand of the woman who gave me life.
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Michelle - posted on 04/15/2017
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Don't feel so guilty.
They can't tell you exactly how long they have so please don't blame the doctors and nurses. How long our loved ones hold on is up to them and sometimes it's a lot longer than anyone expects or it's shorter.
You were there for a lot of her last days so just be thankful that you spent that time with her. Maybe she decided that it was best she went when you weren't there, who knows. My Grandmother did the same.
I also suggest some grief counseling to help you get over the guilt you are feeling.