How do I get my 5 month old to let others hold her?

Danielle Kimberly - posted on 12/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Ever since my LO was about 2 months old she will not let anyone else hold her but me. I understand that I am her comfort and security but I would like for her to feel comfortable with others. My finace's family lives very close. His grandmother is retired so we visit her everyday. My Lo, though she has been around her everyday since she was born, plays strange with her too. My finace's mother visits almost everyday as well and the same thing. She even does it dad too. Not all the time, but often enough. Dad helps out (he works full time, I stay at home), but whenever he holds her, she is always looking around for me and will sometimes cry until I take her. I have tried to just let her CIO, but I hate to let her do that, so I always end up taking her back. We visit family alot and I have some friends in the area with children too. I have brought her to playgroups, I take her out in public but as soon as she leaves my arms she bawls. She has spent a few nights away and she is usually ok after a while of me being gone, but she is much more fussy when I am not there. Do any other moms share the same experience. I know she will eventually grow out of it, but at what age? I know all kids are different but is there anything I can do to help her with this? Thanks.


~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/05/2012




This is pretty normal. My daughter was the same way. I had to actually leave in order for her to let anyone hold her or play with her. This may be a good thing for you both, cause she will see it is alright to get comfort from others, and that mom will come back.

Lakota - posted on 12/05/2012




You are her comfort and security. She feels good and safe in your arms. Be patient with her. She will get over that soon enough. I wouldn't force it on her or let her cry it out. She's still so little and needs her mother. Patience.


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