how do i get my 6 1/2 year old to learn how to tie his shoes?

Tabatha - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




We have tried everything, and everyone to help him and he's just not getting the hang of it. he gets mad easily and gives up. Tired of tying his shoes, and he comes home tripping on his shoelaces because the teachers wont help him anymore.


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Tabatha - posted on 05/02/2010




Thank you soo much Ladies for all of your help :) I might try the bunny ear thing to see if that works and if not then i might just go ahead and by him shoe's with no laces :) will keep you all updated!

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If it makes you feel any better. My oldest son was taught by his youngest sister. They are 5 years apart. I don't remember their ages, but that would put her at 3-5, probably and him at 8-10 years of age. He's now almost 21. They will laugh about it sometimes even today. I just made no big deal of it, tried teaching him to no avail but kept trying without pressure, put him in shoes that didn't require tying, and eventually he learned from another child when he wanted to learn.

Sharon - posted on 04/30/2010




Let it go. He'll learn eventually. My younger son didn't learn till he was nearly 8. it was oooo weird.

I bought these curly laces that don't require you to tie up & skechers no - tie shoes. one day he came home and knew how to tie shoes.

Jodi - posted on 04/30/2010




My daughter can't tie hers yet (she is 5), so I just tie hers in double knots. We also currently practice as part of her "homework" each evening after school. My son started tying his when he was around 6, and it was just practicing each day. I agree with Latoya about the bunny ears method - that works well when trying to teach them because it is less confusing. But some kids take a bit longer than others - it takes development of the fine motor skills to be successful, so just be patient.

Heather - posted on 04/30/2010




I also agree with getting him shoes that don't need to be tied. In a little while start pointing out when his friends are tying their shoes. Eventually, he will want to be like his friends and learn to tie them.

Carrie - posted on 04/30/2010




I agree, I would get a pair of shoes he doesn't have to worry about tying. I find that with my son, who is also 6, giving him a break from something he is having trouble getting the hang of makes a big differnce and then try again in a month. Most of the time after a break he is more willing to put effort into it.

Latoya - posted on 04/30/2010




It may not be fun to teach kids the same thing twice, but I started by teaching my oldest to make the two bunny ears and just tying them together. It's usually what they catch onto fastest, and then with that feeling of accomplishment, they're more open to learning the "right way" soon after. :)

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2010




My daughter gets mad easily when it comes to learning how to do things. eventually I tried something different.. I bought shoes that didnt need to be tied for school and I kept the tie shoes at home so after school I make a game out of it.. play bunny foo foo...and I got a kids book that shows her step by step how to. there are many great books out there for their level and its fun. that way she can go to school without the stress of shoes and when she gets home we have fun learning how to without getting upset so much...hope it helps

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