how do I get my 6 year old to sleep in his own room. I have tried everything

Djuana - posted on 09/07/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I have bought new sheets , moved my younger sons bed in the room, night lights, special animal, moved dog in, everything

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Dolly - posted on 09/07/2009

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May I suggest a book that helps with all sorts of things... Parenting with Dignity by Mac Bledsoe! Good Luck!

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Now knowing that he is scared from imagining he is seeing something.....Pray for him...My oldest son who is 3 1/2 now, went through a phase after he had adjusted to sleeping in his bed. It was one thing after another...a dream, he heard something...Since I am a christian and my husband and I are raising our boys in a christian home, we have prayer each night with the boys after they are tucked in. The LORD is wonderful!!! Hear this...after weeks of up and down with him it was brought to my attention that I should pray for him to sleep well through the night and not to be scared of the dark or have bad dreams. We did and it worked!!! (which is no surprise) I just can't believe I had to have someone bring that to my attention for me do pray about it... Give it a try and have faith in the LORD to answer your prayer....GOD Bless

Michelle - posted on 09/07/2009

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Well, all I can really add is this. If you wake up and he is in your bed, take him back to his room. There is not much else you can do in the situation. You can't tie him to his bed and you can't lock him in his room, so you can only make sure that you are firm in taking him back everytime. If you don't wake up maybe you can rig up something so you know he is in your room? A bell or something. Good luck!

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Supernanny has a tried-and-true game plan: have a quiet time with them (story, etc.), and then tuck them in. Sit with back facing them near the door and do not speak at all. If child gets out of bed, return them to bed without saying a word and continue this until they fall asleep. I've seen her use this many times with parents who have children who won't stay in their rooms, and although the first few times are a challenge it DOES work! They'll know you mean business at bedtime and expect them to sleep in their own bed/bedroom. Good luck!

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Paula - posted on 09/07/2009

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I have the same problem with my 4 1/2 year old.... he doesnt sleep in my bed anymore but will sleep on the couch. He does sleep all night by himself on the couch, but is terrified of sleeping in his room. I tried everything from decorating it and putting up 'cool' curtains to using a spray bottle with water in it for 'monster spray' to get rid of the monsters.

Teresa - posted on 09/07/2009

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Oh goodness, please do not tell me this! We are trying to get our 2 1/2 year old to stay in his bed..does this mean we have another 3 years of this>

Amy - posted on 09/07/2009

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I turned on the tv in my daughter's room and let her fall asleep watching Noggin. She fell asleep watching it. If she got up I told her it was going off and she would be going to sleep right away without watching it. It worked for me, now she is use to sleeping alone and prefers it most days. She is almost 4 and has been sleeping in her own bed for about a year now.

Djuana - posted on 09/07/2009

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I think part of the problem is me. He is so very terrified. He screams as loud as he can and rushes out of the bedroom when he realizes we have left which in turn scares the 3 year old. He is literally scared to death. He says he sees a skeleton coming out of his bathroom even though the door is closed. My mom has recomended hypnotizing him, but I dont know anything much about that

Jodi - posted on 09/07/2009

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I tried a bit of reverse pshychology with my daughter (she is 4 1/2). I told her that if she is not going to sleep in her bed in her room, and was sleeping in our bed, then she didn't need her bedroom anymore at all. It worked :). We had tried so many other things, but this one is a big deal to her because it is HER room with HER stuff in it.....and she's a possessive little thing!!!



Admittedly, I would have been screwed if it had backfired, LOL.

Sandra - posted on 09/07/2009

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I agree that you can't give in no matter how tired you are. It will take some time but keep with it and they will get used to it. Also check out the noises comeing from other rooms. My girls wouldn't sleep in their room because in the middle of the night they heard banging noise on the walls. I slept in there a couple of nights and found that their big sister's bed needed moving off the wall that joined theirs. She was hitting the wall with her arms and legs in the night. Then also sounds from tv's and others talking came throu the vents. Some soft, soothing music playing most of the night helped both in their room and mine. It drowns out others in the house and stuff from outside, like dogs, cats, cars and stuff.

Theresa - posted on 09/07/2009

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I had the same problem you are currently having with your child.I did what everyone else suggested from supernanny.It really did work.Also after having a few good hours of sleep without my son in my bed i was awake enough to be able to put him back in his own bed again.If you are a really sound sleeper you could hang a bell on your door knob.Every time.Your child goes to enter your room the bell will hit the door to alarm you he is entering so you can get up and return him to his own bed.

Nori - posted on 09/07/2009

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put him in his bed at what ever time is bed time if he cries u let him once he realizes that your not payin any attention to him he will give in and go to sleep if u hear him in the middle of the nite dont be so tired that you have to give in keep taking him back and in time he will realize no more sleeping with mommy

Michelle - posted on 09/07/2009

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do you have a rocking chair, try the rocking and a book then say it is time for bed and sit there til they fall asleep it may be long time the first few nites or so but bare with it. Ignore all the whining and complaining and pretend you are sleeping then about 5-10 minutes after they fall asleep leave the room. remove some of the fun stuff. The other thing you can try is wrap them in a blanket not real tight and in a monitone voice repeat time for bed sleepy head, repetition gets them bored and tired.

Melisa - posted on 09/07/2009

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Try rotating nights with your husband. One night is your night to be "on call" and your husband gets to sleep all night. The next night is his night and you get to sleep. This should help with your being to tired to be consistent in the middle of the night. Consistentancy is the key. Good luck.

Autumn - posted on 09/07/2009

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You have to be firm about going to bed. Even in the middle of the night if your child comes in your room, you have to walk him back to his room without even talking. Whatever you do don't let him in your bed. It will take some time but it will pay off.

Djuana - posted on 09/07/2009

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tried it. Saw it on Supernanny two , but he comes in the middle of the night to our bed and we are so tired we just give in. Sometimes I dont even hear him. What else can I do?

Stacey - posted on 09/07/2009

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Im a big fan of self-help books. I tried everything to get my first baby to sleep better, it was a book which guided me to what is now as perfect a sleeper as you can probably ask for. Super Nanny seems great, she has atleast one book. In the end, you have to be the one who puts their foot down and does not give in, it's the only way it will work.

Elissa - posted on 09/07/2009

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I would try the "energy drain". You kind of groan oh, bummer, this is really too bad. Then you say "I don't have energy to ... (whatever he is looking forward too--breakfast, tv, park day, etc.) because you weren't in your own room last night. Keep it up, it really works!!

Stacey - posted on 09/07/2009

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I had a 4 year old that won't sleep in his own bed. The only way that i got him to sleep in there was everytime he got into my bed we would put him back into his own bed and we did it every time. Don't give up it will happen. Because he is 6 make a reward system up for him and put it somewhere he can see it.

I hope i have helped a little. Let me know how you go. Stacey

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Okay Ive seen this one on Super nanny.



Choose a bed time- be firm and constient. Like 7 or 8 pm. have a bed time ritual. Like bath, brush teeth, give kisses to mommy and daddy. Put your child in bed. Now walk out of the room. DONT SPEAK A WORD WHILE LEAVING THEIR ROOM. Most likely thye are going to cry and come out, even scream. Be firm! Pick them up-Put them back in bed-WITHOUT SAYING A SINGLE WORD. then sit on the floor-NOT facing toward them, so the child cant see your face! THEN everytime they get up-put them back in bed-WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING TO THEM---THIS IS CRUCIAL! It will take acouple long nights of sitting on that floor. but each night the time spand should get smaller and smaller. And eventually they should get the point and adjust easily.



I really hope this works for you!

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