How do I get my baby to sleep at night??

Heather - posted on 10/25/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I was rocking her to sleep and it takes almost 2-2.5 hours to get her to sleep at night and she is keeping me from helping me other child and doing my nightly motherly duties it's stressful. I guess what I'm looking for is a new way to get the baby to sleep with out rocking her and screaming it out doesn't work we've tried and she just get more worked up. EVERYTIME she just screams and gets louder and louder I've wait her out for close to an hour before an nothing. * at wits end* please help!!


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Chet - posted on 10/27/2014




Our kids are close in age, and my husband was away when they were very young. It can be really tricky for one person to deal with multiple kids in the evening.

What helped the most was wearing the baby in a soft carrier while I went about the usual evening routine with the other kids. The baby would fall asleep, or doze on and off, until everything was taken care of and I could focus on the baby. Sometimes I had to read standing up, or I only had one hand free while the baby sucked on my finger, but with practise it was manageable.

It's very stressful to have multiple children needing you at the same time. I worked hard at staying calm though, because if I was stressed and rushing the kids didn't unwind as easily as they could have for the end of the day.

Sarah - posted on 10/25/2014




How old is she? Try to lay her down while she is drowsy but awake. Pat her back for a few minutes and then leave her to sleep. Babies learn to self soothe and to fall asleep on their own, but it is a skill. Now she uses the comfort of your arms to soothe herself and settle herself to sleep.
The "cry it out method" is controversial, and attachment parenting advocates will advise against letting your baby cry.
I too, had this problem. My eldest could scream his brains out for what felt like forever, so I would nurse him to sleep every night. My mom is the one who shed a different light on it for me. She told me: 1. no baby ever died from crying and 2. you are doing your son a disservice by not letting him learn to self soothe and fall asleep, alone, in his crib.
You may need to wait, 2, 3, 4 hours but your child will fatigue and fall asleep. Some parents choose to set a number of minutes rather than go cold turkey. So you do your whole bedtime routine, bottle, bath, books and snuggles, then lay baby down. Yes she will go berserk! Wait ten minutes go in and pat her back and leave, no talking, no lights, no picking up. She will scream like she's on fire, like her life depends on you coming in to get her. Continue the cycle. The next night stretch out your time in between return trips. She physically can't stay awake all night. She can't, it may seem like it, but she can't. In those moments where she is so tired, she will lay down and maybe rock, thump her foot, or suck her thumb. Those are tools she will use to soothe herself. I know it seems impossible, I promise you it will work and within a week she may still cry but it will be brief and she will have learned how to fall asleep. The key is, you can't cave and pick her up, if she cries for three hours (not likely) and you pick her up because you can't take it, you just taught her to cry for three hours and you'll pick her up.

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