how do i get my son to use the potty to have a wee? i have tryed sooo many different ways and its like he is scared of it!! when i pull it out he runs a mile and if u tell him he needs to do a wee on there he goes mad! then continues to wee all over my house!! :( im reli gettin frustrated now and need some desperate help!!!!!!!


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Tara - posted on 09/07/2011




Have you tried the potty ring seat that goes on a regular toilet? My girls trained so much faster when I stopped trying to get them to use the little potty and just had them go on the toilet with the little seat.

One thing I've heard from a lot of moms with boys is that if you put a few cheerios or fruit loops in the toilet bowl and have him aim for them as a "game" it helps with the training.

Bonnie - posted on 09/07/2011




Don't push him or it will take him longer. He may not be ready yet. How old is he? I have two boys. With the first one, I would try to potty train by 2.5 and I could tell he didn't have much interest. At 3 years I tried again and explained how important it is to be potty trained for school. That seemed to help. My younger son, didn't take much time at all once he reached 2 years, 8 months. He was fully trained within a couple of weeks.

I don't know what you have tried, but I find they are too comfortable in diapers and pullups to me are just like diapers. Put him on underwear. He will feel everything more. They can always be thrown in the laundry.

JuLeah - posted on 09/07/2011




Well, I don't know how old he is. If he is three, or near three, then he is of a good age to try training.

If he is younger, he might not be ready. Parents can do damage if they push or force this issue

It usually resolves itself. How many 10yr olds do you know in diapers?

So, assuming the age is right ... if he is frightened, and it sounds like he is - at the very least, you have a pattren of behavior developed that needs to end. So, back off for a few weeks. Say nothing, do nothing

Then, get a sticker chart - kids love stickers

Each time he uses the pot, he gets a sticker

No pressure, no force, he can or he can refuse ... no big deal ...but if he wants the sticker, he has to try

You say, "When you pull it out?" I assume a child sized pot? Use this always in the bathroom, so he doesn't get the idea that one pees all over the house

When he has done gone in the pot a few times and seems comfortable, then take him out of diapers and let him run around in underwear or naked for a few hours at a time

Remind him, take him to the pot every 1/2 or so, but again, don't push

You can put a small bit of paper in the pot and have him aim for it ... boys seem to like that game too

You can get books from the library about kids learning - books written for kids of course with fun pictures, and you can read them to him - that helps

It helps too if he has an older kid he can hang out with and see that kid using the pot

They all get there sooner or later - so relax, no rush

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