how do i get my stepchildren ages 6,5,& 3 to listen

Amie - posted on 04/21/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




what are the best ways to get them to listen and get them to do what i tell them to do


JuLeah - posted on 04/21/2011




Well, I don't know how long you have known them, that matters. Have you established a fun loving relationship with them? Do you plan fun activites? Do you have fun quality time?

And, kids don't always listen, they don't always do what you tell them to do. Kids are not robots :)

I assume your husband (?) is backing you up?

Face it, you are out numbered and they are step kids ... the relationship is different .... you can't ever really be 'mom' but your role is very important!!

What you do with a six year old and a three year old is very different, so the approach you take will be different.

I assume you have read parenting books? What approach does your partner take, how about the kids mother? What does she do?
Make the rules very simple and very clear ... don't overload them with demands ... make sure what you are asking fits their age and ability .... make sure there is something in it for them ... no kids just obeys orders, and would you really want a kid who did?
So, we will all color when the living room is cleaned. Not "kids clean the living room"
So, make it a race ... who can get dressed the fastest? Not, "okay go get dressed"
Or, after you are dressed, we will have breakfast.
First one in the car gets to pick the music we listen to.
After dinner, I will read you a story. After your are all in your PJ's we can play a game of .....

Jodi - posted on 04/21/2011




First question, how long have you been involved with their dad? Second question, do they live with you, and if not, how often are they at your house and for how long? Third question, what do you mean by "listen to you"? Do you mean they are ignoring you altogether, or are they just kids being kids, and pushing the boundaries? Do you have particular firm *rules* in your house that have been made clear to them and they are breaking them? Are you trying to give them more than one instruction at once, and they don't follow them?

More information :)


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