How do i get through a custody battle???

Melissa - posted on 08/10/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi Moms, Me and my partner have been together for 5 years and have a daughter of almost 2 years old. After being together so long he gas left me. We stay together so this makes things very difficult. He want to be single and what he wants,and also he admitted that he has fgeelings for his ex. without us keeping him behind. i have already applied for child support and just waiting for court date. He invited her over yesterday,and made things very difficult for me,after i told him that what he is doing is worng,an i dont like it,i was so furious!!
How can i cope with his behaviour and still stand up for my daughter knowing that his friends will always come before me and her?

Im stressed out,tires,down,miserable....



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Jodi - posted on 08/10/2012




I agree with Michelle. You need to live separately, and you also need to take yourself out of the equation. Yes, his friends will always come before you. You are no longer a factor in his life other than as the mother of his child. His friends coming over is also not a sign that they come before his child. Every parent has a right to adult friendships too, as long as it isn't interfering with the relationship with their child. We are all entitled to friends. We are entitled to move on. His feelings for his ex, if you have separated, is now none of your business.

I think, as long as you live under the same roof, it is simply not going to work. You need to now just focus on a parenting relationship, which has nothing to do with you, and is ONLY about your child.

Michelle - posted on 08/10/2012




For starters, if you are no longer together you need to live separately. It doesn't work living under the same roof.

Once you get your own place you then need to organize a written visitation schedule that you both need to stick to.

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