How do I go about visitation?

Kelli - posted on 02/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son has been going to his father's house for a few months now and I thought it would get better but he fights me everytime not to go. He will be 3 in June. His father has a total of 4 kids that are his and his girlfriend as 2 of her own, so that makes 6 kids in the house when he goes over there. When he is with me, it is just my son, boyfriend, and me. He doesn't have any problems going anywhere else but to his dad's. Also on Monday, we had gone to his dad's to meet the new baby his father and girlfriend just had 3 weeks ago, we pulled in the driveway and my son said "No Mommy, I stay in the car, I not going in there!" My son going to visit his dad is out of the kindness of my heart because I want my son to know his dad and siblings, but this is crazy! The only right my son's dad has is to pay child support. So any advice on what to do?


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Firebird - posted on 02/28/2013




"The only right my son's dad has is to pay child support." I do hope you mis-wrote that and meant something entirely different. Make no mistake, your child's father has as much right to his son as you do. You should talk to your ex about your son's protests and see if there's a way to peacefully resolve the issue. Sounds to me like the boy could definitely use some more one on one time with his father since he isn't accustomed to being in such a full house. How often does he go to his dad's house? Could be that he needs to go there a little more often.

Amy - posted on 02/28/2013




Maybe I'm misreading what you wrote but what do you mean "the only right my son's dad has is to pay child support". Have you talked to his father about how your son acts, have you asked him to do something maybe once a month with just him and your son.

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