how do i handle my mother in law?

Dominique - posted on 10/15/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am 19 years old and have been married for 2 years and have 2 kids. I am a stay at home mom and my husband works. I am currently having trouble with a meddling mother in law. My husbands mom lives less than a mile from us and she thinks she has to choose where we live and she thinks she is mom. Well she comes over everyday and if we are gone she calls us and if we tell her we are in town she is like where at in town and at what town and im sitting there thinking does it matter??? its none of her business. she has problems with control too. she tries to control where we are going to live and if we go to st joe or something like that and one of us is by ourself she thinks we cant take care of our own kids by ourself. she dresses them like its 0-20 degrees out when its 60-65 and sunny, no wind and they are always whining when they come home. she walks into mine and my husbands bedroom when we are in bed still and tried pulling the blanket off when we was sleeping (lucky her we was asleep and not doing anything else) and if we dont answer our phones she comes running over like the world is going to end and she buts into our business all the time. if we have plans and the babies are somewhere else she worries if they are with us (the parents) she worries. the only time she dont worry is if they are with her and she takes the role of mommy all the time even when im there. she thinks she has to drive me everywhere when i have the care. i am almost 20 years old and i have had my license for almost 4 years. i can drive myself. If i am taking the babies by myself she automatically jumps in the vehicle as i am leaving like idk how to take care of my own kids. she walks in mine and my husbands house like she owns the place. OH YEAH and she is constantly asking andy and i to do things for her so she can be lazy and play on the computer and its stuff she can do herself.. Last week she did that and also just yesterday (sunday) she come over and knocked on our door well since we didnt answer she come to our bedroom window and pounded on it and looked in it too. and then we didnt answer so she come back an hour later and did the same thing just to bring my daughter to church. she didnt call til after she got here the second time and was pounding on our door. we locked it for a reason and she dont get the point. we tried signs and that dont work. My husband and i have talked to her and that didnt work. she wont even listen to her husband, sister, mom, etc...............no one. What do i do? We are getting so tired of it and because of her we are stuck at the house we got put into which is less than a mile from her. we are stuck buying it no thanks to her and we dont want to live here. now we have to buy the place cuz she talked to the landowner without consulting us first.

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Dominique - posted on 10/15/2012

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Dove,

Yeah she is a piece of work. thats what he did and she got worse and we cant get hold of the landowner.

Dominique - posted on 10/15/2012

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I have tried asserting myself more and more and the more i do it the worse she gets and same with my husband. we have set rules for her and she doen't follow them. she we have put our foot down and talked TO HER meaning talked at her. he was very firm with her and she just got worse the more we tell her the worse she gets. its got so bad she might as well live her.

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