How do I let go of my adult children???..It's putting a strain on my 3 month re-marriage..

Jill - posted on 09/09/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am a mom of 2 aldult children who still live with me..I was a single mom for the last 4 1/2 yrs. When I left their dad 7 yrs ago they were ages 12 and their best interest cuz of school and stuff I left them with their dad..since they have been with me I feel like I have to make up for the 2 1/2 yrs I lost with them.. and have become very over protective with them...always trying to fix everything and such...they are now 22 and 19 and I am just recently remarried and my problem is now at this stage when I should be enjoying a second chance at happiness with my new husband I am having a hard time feeling that I still have to take csre of the kids and it is putting I strain on my new marriage already...what do I do?? do I let go and let my kids be adults??? do I stop being a protective mom??/..I desparately need advice..


Vicki - posted on 09/09/2012




The first thing that stuck out to me is when you said that you feel like you have to make up for the 2yrs lost. I would say let go of the guilt, you mentioned that you left them with their dad for their best interest right? Be confident in that decission. Your right you should be enjoying your marriage. And in my opinion no you dont have to still take care of your kids they can take care of themselves!

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