How do I make sure my children know each other... I have a 19 y/o son and a 2 y/o?

Terri - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I want my children to love, respect and know each other. I come from a close family (age wise - including the fact that I have a twin) My oldest is off to college... What can I do to ensure that my youngest knows his brother. Is it different than if they were close in age?

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Terri - posted on 10/15/2009

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Thank You! My oldest isn't at home with me. He is in college and the national Guard. Before college he went to military school on scholarship.
I love this site... I am getting so much helpful information.

Tracy - posted on 10/15/2009

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show them pictures and talk of them to each other , and if you get the chance, Let the older one babysit sometime when you go to the store or out to eat. Include them even when you are with them and heve the older one help you change ,feed ect... it will help them bond to let the older one do some things with the little one. goodluck!

Dawnetta - posted on 10/15/2009

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my bro & I are 16 yrs apart & we were always very close, even though I moved away after college. But I think it is up to them. I had always really wanted a sibling so when I had time at home I made sure to do fun things with him (even though I dont really enjoy playing video games etc. it was fun to do it with him). As with most siblings, there will eventually be a time in their life when they have things in common & they will bond.

Terri - posted on 10/15/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

My husbands' family is like that.

His oldest sister was off to college when he was a toddler.

As a college student your oldest is busy. The best you can do is encourage the oldest to spend time with the youngest when they have time. Home for christmas vacation etc.

My husbands' fondest memories are of going hiking & camping with his oldest sister and her husband/boyfriend as a young boy & teenager. She was always the nicest of his siblings to him.

Some things never change - they are siblings for life. Do your best to make sure the college child doesn't resent the baby, and the baby knows he has an older sibling that he doesn't have to measure up to but he can look up to.


Sharon:



Thank you so much... I feel ideas flowing now. They most certainly will spend holidays together... but, "they" can do things... travel, camp, parks just the two of them. Fortunately, David (my oldest) is very responsible and enjoys things like that... without "parents" (respectfully). I see good opportunities here. THANKS SO MUCH!

Terri - posted on 10/15/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

not sure how far off the collage is, but can your children talk on a web cam or phone once a week of maybe have the younger one draw pictures for his older brother.


He's about 3 hours away. I'll have to consider getting a webcam. While we say prayers with our youngest... he recognizes his brothers name... and picture... Will he "know" him?



I guess I am fearing my mortality. I'll be retiring when my youngest get to college age. David, my oldest asked us when we had Alexander, "will I have to take care of him if something happens to you guys (me and my husband)?"

Sharon - posted on 10/15/2009

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My husbands' family is like that.



His oldest sister was off to college when he was a toddler.



As a college student your oldest is busy. The best you can do is encourage the oldest to spend time with the youngest when they have time. Home for christmas vacation etc.



My husbands' fondest memories are of going hiking & camping with his oldest sister and her husband/boyfriend as a young boy & teenager. She was always the nicest of his siblings to him.



Some things never change - they are siblings for life. Do your best to make sure the college child doesn't resent the baby, and the baby knows he has an older sibling that he doesn't have to measure up to but he can look up to.

Michelle - posted on 10/15/2009

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not sure how far off the collage is, but can your children talk on a web cam or phone once a week of maybe have the younger one draw pictures for his older brother.

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