How do i protect my son from being bullied at school?


Kim - posted on 04/08/2009




Not sure if this will help, but my son was also bullied at school. He has autism, Once we found out who the bully (or bullies) were, the pricipal had them eat lunch together and walk home together. This is in hopes that they would get to know each other and become friends. After about a week, the talbles turned and the bully was the one who was protecting and sticking up for my son. Sometimes this method works great, it gives the kids a chance to get to know each other

Ashley - posted on 04/08/2009




I am sure you will get a lot of responses to this question. My answer would be to speak to the Dean (principal)  of the school and let him know what is going on and that you would like to call a meeting with the other children's parents with children present so the matter can be resolved. When Children see how matters are supposed to resolved they tend to have a better chance at finding more productive ways to deal with their feelings.

On the other hand maybe the other children's parents don't care ..that is obviously what is wrong the the children that are doing the bullying. I would sit down with your son and explain that what the other children are doing is wrong and that it is not the proper way to deal with things. Let him know that these children are confused and possibly hurting inside and don't know how to express what they are feeling.


I hope you can find a solution, bullying happens far to often.

Anastacia - posted on 04/08/2009




When I was growing up I was always bullied at school. My parents always told me to stand up for myself and be confident. If your confident in yourself and dont let people get to you then after awhile they get bored. Kids bully other kids because of two main reasons, either they are bored and want to get a rise out of someone or they are getting bullied at home. If it gets out of hand then I would go to the school and talk to someone. There are so many problmes now a days with kids getting bullied that many kids dont even want to go to school anymore. They dred it and thats not fair. I would tell your son...dont let those kids get to you. They are mad because he probably has the life that they want.


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Cathy - posted on 04/08/2009




That's such a tough situation...and my biggest fear for my kids.  I've always taught my son to stand up for himself...and never back down from a bully.  I don't believe in 'walking away' - it makes the child look weak and will encourage the bully to keep it up.  Is there a strong male role model in your son's life?  I definitely think a martial arts program would do wonders for his self esteem - he needs to take his power back and feel good about it.  They teach kids to have inner strength and loads of confidence. 

Try it.  Good luck !!

Muriel - posted on 04/08/2009




well i think that if you already tried to go to his teachers and to the principle and nothing is being done, then there is nothing he can do but protect himself. how old is he? i would suggest he takes some type of martial arts class. like karate or kickboxing, etc. i'm 26 yrs old, and i started kickboxing a year ago to help with my stress, for exercising, and honestly also because I didn't trust certain people around me. It gave me confidence and i think that is what your son needs.

is fighting the solution? no, but usually martial arts instructors don't tell their students to go beat everyone up, but about discipline and how to protect yourself, and i truly believe it helps with confidence. 

 I don't allow my child to hurt anyone, but once to many times, like coming from a bully, is enough! Then you have to defend yourself. That is domestic violence. It causes people emotional distress even if it's not always physical and one must protect themselves.

Obviously talking to your son as well like Ashley and Anastacia suggested about what the bully is doing is wrong and that there is nothing wrong with him. --Again, the confidence and reassurance of one self is very important. Good luck ! 


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