How do i tell my 13 teen year old about her biological father

Teena - posted on 08/19/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hello ladys any ideas how to deal with the biological father comming back?
I left Jessica's father when she was 10 months, then I meet the man of my dreams Tom who i have married and had 2 more daughters with.
Tom has excepted her since she was 13 months old as well as his family.
jessica is now 13 years .we are a lucky family to have a good support on both sides
.Its your tipical family.
My fear has always been when will Dave come back into the picture and want to be apart of her life again.
I didnt want to tell jessica about him till she was old enough to understand.
Because i just wanted her to grow up in a happy family playing doing kids things .Now shes becoming a young lady and learning who she is as well as the pre teens ups and downs. my worries is this may not be a good time? Any takers thanks for listening Teena


Kimberly - posted on 08/19/2012




Jessica seems to be one lucky girl that you have married someone who is willing to take the part of being her father. If it is a fear of yours I think you are better off telling her BEFORE he does turn up that way she isnt sideswiped. Make sure you explain that it doesnt make Tom anyless her father its just that she has two. I grew up with both a step dad and mom and I am very greatful for having two extra parents. I never had to choose between anyone and I could get options on things I was thinking of doing. She will probally be upset when you first tell her but let her voice her feelings and talk about how she feels. Good luck with it all

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