How do we guide a child's personality?I'm "only" a step-mom but I see things differently... HELP

New Stepmom... - posted on 07/22/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )




Being a new stepmother of a 5 year old boy (almost 6) is hard! I do not have any children of my own but I have plenty of nieces and nephews. One of my nephews is 4 years old, and he and my stepson play regularly.

I've been in David's life (step son) for almost 2 years. The first year I was completely hands off as far as raising David. This last year, as I'm now his step-mom, I've been more involved and it seems as though David, his dad couldn't be happier. I just don't feel as happy anymore. I see things that David's dad and David's mom don't see.

David's personality now: he tattles on any little thing the neighbor kids, or my nieces and nephews do. He is a very serious for only being 5. He still is entertained by shows - Peppa Pig- designed for toddlers. If he doesn't want to do something it seems like he shuts down? ( for example yesterday David, my husband and my niece went to the Zoo. There was an interactive station inside for the kids to make kites. My niece - who just turned 2 - was soooo excited and she sat down and made a kite. David didn't want to so he just sat there with a blank look on his face and wouldn't respond to the woman asking him what kind of kite he made. His dad took him away to see something else but without addressing that it isn't polite to ignore someone)

I know that every child is different but my nephew at 4 years old, and even my niece at 2 years old have more 'personality' than David. I feel guilty for feeling this way but I want to help David if I can? Have him loosen up a bit? I don't even know if this is possible.

Thanks for listening, this is the first time I've actually expressed this and any tips or even stories to know that I'm not alone would be great!

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