How do you deal with a 26 yr old daughter who lives with you and wants to die, she says she wishes every night that she will not wake up. She will not go to conseling nor will she take medication. Any ideas??? Please hlep...


Denikka - posted on 06/12/2013




Don't love her to death. I agree with Shawn. If she's that depressed, she needs to do something about it.
It can be scary admitting that you have a problem and need help. Perhaps you could call a help line or go in to visit a councilor yourself, to ask for advice as to how best to approach the situation with your daughter.


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Rebekah - posted on 06/12/2013




I agree that she needs help. Call a crisis line and tell them what is happening. She should get inpatient psychiatric care to keep her safe and stabilize her mood. When people are severely depressed, sometimes they can't rationally look at their situation and realize the need for treatment, medication, etc., or feel so hopeless they can't see that there is any possibility of getting better. If she can get some treatment and feel better, hopefully she will opt to continue treatment outpatient for ongoing stability.

I'm glad she is sharing her feelings with you...continue to be a listening ear and support for her. It is a myth that if people are talking about it, they won't actually try to harm themselves...some do. It needs to be taken seriously. Even if she says she won't act on her thoughts, she still needs intervention. This is not a healthy way of thinking or responding to stress in her she is help-rejecting. She needs to take an active role in her well-being...if she is unhappy, she needs to make changes. She may not be able to hear that from you...but maybe her eyes will open to it in a treatment setting.

Do something soon, please, before she does something impulsive.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/12/2013




If she's living with you, then set conditions. If she wants the room, she goes to a counselor.

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