How do you deal with a 3 year old's attitude?

Kaitlyn - posted on 09/24/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




my 3 year old has a big personaltie and she likes to say no quite a bit? any suggestions


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Stop saying no. When your child decided to do something that is not allowed say: " Stop, Come here or don't." Find other ways to express what actions you don't want done. I tell my son: " HOT, don't touch." for the stove...

I try to say no as little as possible because the more they hear it, the more they say it. Give your child choices within limits and ask questions that do not have a yes or no answer.

It's cold out so you child has the choice to wear the blue or the green hat but he HAS to wear a hat. Just ask: " Do you want the blue or green hat?" "Do you want the blue or red socks?" "Do you want to play on the slide or in the sandbox?"

It gives children some freedom within specific guidelines and reduces the opportunity for you child to say no to everything.

Sara - posted on 09/24/2010




Try to put yourself in their shoes - it's frustrating being 3. I had a 3 year old with an attitude and being consistent and following through made a huge difference. If kids know that consequences are real, it often sets in a lot faster.

Also try to find positive ways to emphasize good behavior. I loved and used sticker charts to emphasize the good behavior. Know too, that it will get better - 4 year olds are wild and crazy but usually much happier and better behaved.


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Angie - posted on 09/24/2010




I agree give her choices. I used to say things like "do you want to wear this or this?" "Do you want green beans or corn?" I never gave her an open ended choice like "Do you want to go to the store with me?" She might say no and then you're stuck with a choice you gave her. She'll outgrow it with discipline and consistency. It's better to nip this in the bud now than to wait until she is older...

Alison - posted on 09/24/2010




I agree with Mylene. You need to give her opportunities to make decisions as much as possible. She is looking to feel she is in control.

What works well with my 2+ year old is "who wants to take a bath?!" or "who wants to read a story?!" to which she most often answers "MEEEE!". It's not a sure fire hit, but it's worth a shot.

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2010




I have four boys which three of them are old enough to have attitudes. In our house you either get rid of it or lose your game time or tv time until they have a better attitude. I think consistancy is key with anything. It's our way or no way. Whatever disapline you use just stick to it and they will learn, some take longer than others to get it but just stick with it.

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