How do you deal with the fact that your husband cheated on you with your girlfriend, we have been separated 7months and now they are together? we have 2 small kids and they love her kids as they knew them since they were little. how do i deal with this?

Jcg - posted on 07/19/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )




I have such rage over this whole situation. My husband and my friend started their affair a year and a half ago. Her Ex husband was really good friends with my husband and they got too close during the ski season taking our two older kids skiing since her ex and me dont ski. We trusted them and little by little i started noticing my Perfect husband changing. He started telling me he was not happy and didnt know if he wanted to be married, when i asked if there was someone else he denied it. I found an email she sent him and confronted them and didnt tell her husband in fear of violent behavior. They denied they were having an affair and she cried in front of me just telling me they had just become close friends but nothing else and that that would stop so no red flags were raised with her husband.
He came back to me like being a perfect husband and father for two months after i confronted him and then he went back to being distant,cold and now mean and annoyed by me. I finally caught them cheating in Novermber and kicked him out of the house, he did confess he loves her and is very sorry. Supposedley they didnt see each other for a while according to him (which was a lie) and now she is divorced and he confessed to me two days ago that they are together. He said they are taking it slow and since our kids already know her and her kids they dont really have to wait to introduce her..... i feel so betrayed and dont know how to make him understand that this is really wrong for our babies, they are 3 and 6 and they do love her kids but i feel as though they are so selfish. I need all the help I can get as this is killing me, i don't know what I am going to do when i see them together, we were married 14 years (still are) as divorce is not final. We already divided assets and the divorce will be filed . Please help!

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