How do you drop a friendship with a next door neighbor?

Mary Renee - posted on 02/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Ok, so this doesn't involve our kids but it involves grown women and I'm in need of advice.

I live in an apartment and a few years ago a lady moved in on our floor and we became friends. She was going through a divorce when I was having trouble with my daughter's father and naturally we bonded over that.

Anyway, recently she confided in me that she had reconnected with a guy she knew who is married with a young child and a pregnant wife. They "sext" and have cyber sky ping sex on a regular basis. She tells this to me with no regret or remorse, but more like she thinks it's cool, like I'm supposed to be glad for her that she's moving on and getting some.

While I've never done these things and don't know much about them, I don't judge people who do, different strokes for different folks. HOWEVER, the fact that she is doing this with a woman's husband... particularly while that woman is pregnant... is appalling to me. I remember being pregnant. I had so much insecurity about the weight gain and changes in my body an the hormones that I was constantly afraid that my boyfriend would cheat on me, or do whatever that webstuff is.

Now whenever I see this neighbor all I can think about is that poor pregnant woman. I can be polite and keep my mouth shut only for so long. But she calls and texts and I'm concerned because I don't want things to be awkward because we're both going to be living in this apartment building for a long time, but honestly, I am not at all interested in her friendship anymore. I know this isn't entirely motherhood related but I've always gotten great advice from this site that I was hoping for some feedback.


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Sarah - posted on 02/05/2012




I would probably just tell her that you don't agree with her decision to have this relationship with a man who has a pregnant wife. That you wish her well, but don't want to be friends with someone that would do that to another woman. Be honest. I agree with you, I think it's pretty deplorable that someone would have an affair with someone they knew was married especially with a pregnant wife.

Brianna - posted on 02/04/2012




i think u need to tell ur "friend" the truth that u think whats shes doing is wrong and u dont wanna be friends with people that do such horrible things... that poor pregnant woman i feel soo bad for her :(

Michelle - posted on 02/04/2012




My ex husband DID cheat on me when I was pregnant so I can tell you the wife isn't going to be happy when she finds out!!!!! It's the most horrible feeling.

Back on topic though: Let her know that you don't agree with her doing those things with a married man and you don't wish to hear about it. Each time she mentions him/what they did etc, just politely say " I really don't want to know". Hopefully she will get the message and stop talking to you all together :-)

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