How do you get anything done?

Josie - posted on 10/27/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )




my daughter alway wants to be held and wont take to a sling, how do i get work done?


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Blackwood - posted on 10/27/2009




I know this is hard, you just need to find that "one thing" that she would like, for me it was the Fisher Price Lamb swing, we have another swing, but my son doesn't really like that one, but this Fisher Price Lamb swing is suppose to resemble a parents hold and my son REALLY likes it. I can make his bottles, and get some rest. You can go on and look up what other mom's say about it? My son doesn't like to be put down either and even once he was sound asleep as soon as I put him down he would wake up.

Kim - posted on 10/27/2009




I believe you can spoil your children with all the stuff but you can't spoil them with too much love and affection. Children crave affection, especially the little ones. If you daughter wants to be held, then hold her. It's her way of telling you she wants to bond with you. One day you will miss holding her in your arms. You'll just have to put it in high gear when she's napping to get your chores done. Spending time with our precious little ones trumps housework any day :-)

Nichole - posted on 10/27/2009




well i held on to my lil girl for about 2 months and could barly get any thing done... then i got told by my mother to put her in her swing or bouncer and let her paly and if she was fed and changed and just wanted to be held to let her cry it out some and she would finally fall asleep.... now at 9 months almost she plays on the floor with her toys in a gated room in the middle of my house so every now and then i am walking threw there doing something and stop for a few mins and play with her... just do what is easier for you... i let her cry it out cuz she was being spoild to much by being held all the time... now i do lil here and there well shes a wake when shes playing happyily... and most when shes napping or in bed for the night...

Tam - posted on 10/27/2009





enjoy today, cause in a few years they will be grown. Dont listen to ppl who complain about how the place looks.. if those ppl cared they would help you do the chores. believe it or not you are holding your future helper. As soon as I could I let my kids help with chores.. no they wont fold the clothes right, but its still special time spent together. Sometimes you just have to let the chores go. I had a lot of critics about my house, but now that my kids have grown I laugh at those that critiqued me, and you should see thier houses now.. It gets easier over time, I use to put my kids in the high chair with some toys or cheerios while I was doing dishes right next to me..I breastfed all of mine, so they were really attached, and I took a nap a lot with them. Now that they are teenagers, I miss those days and times.. Babies are precious and grow up way to fast so just enjoy every second..the dishes will always be there!

Kristin - posted on 10/27/2009




I used to feel really guilty about not getting anything done (Grissom had colic, it was rough), but this poem helped me get some perspective. Enjoy!

Mother, O Mother, come shake out your cloth,

Empty the dustpan, poison the moth,

Hang out the washing, make up the bed,

Sew on a button and butter the bread.

Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?

She's up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.

Oh, I've grown as shiftless as Little Boy Blue,

Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo.

Dishes are waiting and bills are past due

Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo

The shopping's not done and there's nothing for stew

And out in the yard there's a hullabaloo

But I'm playing Kanga and this is my Roo

Look! Aren't his eyes the most wonderful hue?

Lullabye, rockaby lullabye loo.

The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow

But children grow up as I've learned to my sorrow.

So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!

I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.

- Ruth Hulbert Hamilton

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2009




I used to put my kids in a bouncer in the room I was working in, and I had toys to tie up on the bouncer for them, and I'd also chat away to them as I went. With the bouncer, they were semi-sitting, so they could watch what was going on, and every now and then I'd crouch down and give them a bounce, the toys would catch their eye again, and they were happy. I couldn't have lived without my bouncer. Once they can crawl and walk, however, that doesn't work. They used to just follow me around then, and I would hold off doing things like mopping floors or using bathroom chemicals, cleaning toilets, etc, until they went to bed at night. Also, opening up my container cupboard worked wonders. Once they were mobile, they LOVED playing with the plastic containers, and a coupkle of wooden spoons.

Jenni - posted on 10/27/2009




I have a 2yr old & an 11 month old, I am a major fan of HI-5! My kids love it! I refuse to carry my 10kilo baby around for long priods so she has had to get used to being on the floor with her toys... It doesn't long for them to get used to it, give her plenty of things to play with and everytime you walk by wave & talk to her... I make sure morning time is for playing with plenty of interactions in between doing the washing! Afternoons are nap times and work times...

Amanda - posted on 10/27/2009




Try budgeting your time. Work for 30 minutes before your little one wakes. Then do 10-15 minutes cleaing the messiest/most used areas first. If you've changed her, fed her, rocked her and she still won't settle for 10-15 minutes at a time... consult her dr.

Abbie - posted on 10/27/2009




Most days I don't!! And I am ok with that! Dishes are done while our son eats or is playing nicely, he is older though. When he was little.....up til about a year, I really didn't care if my house was messy, if dishes were in the sink. When he napped I napped!! I expected my husband to help and still expect him to! If I need to really focus now and get things done he goes to drop in day care for a few hours or Gramma & grandpas. Doesn't hurt them for us to get things done.

Lara - posted on 10/27/2009




My daughter also wants to be held all of the time, and I think it is hard to do most chores with her in the Moby wrao, so I put her in a baby backpack, like people use for hiking, and from there she can see everything, is happy because I still am "holding" her, and is out of harms way if I am cooking or doing dishes. Besides that, I have kind just surrendered to the fact that things are not going to be as tidy as they were before Penelope was born, and that is ok. :)

Leeann - posted on 10/27/2009




It will get easier trust me, my youngest son had colic and acid reflux and I thought I was going to die because I couldnt get any house work done, but at night when he would sleep I would do one room a night it was a pain for about a yr until he out grew it but it worked

Kimberly - posted on 10/27/2009




I use a snugli with my baby up front facing me. Try using the vaccume, it always put my little ones to sleep. I am on baby #3 and the same snugli. Sometimes you have to keep them in it to get anything done. It does help with your milk comming in if breastfeeding.

Sharon - posted on 10/27/2009




Depending on the age of your daughter - I'm not sure why everyone insists you run yourself to exhaustion.

When the babies are born you work 24 hours a day with a couple of hours of sleep at night if you're lucky.

You work all day long too. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of a needy (and rightfully so!) baby.

Now you're being told to get the work done when the baby naps. BULLPUCKY!

Put the baby in a swing and do the dishes, put the baby in a sling and do the vacuuming, put the baby in the swing and get the cooking done. Talk to her, make eye contact, SMILE a lot, wave, long distance PEEK-A-BOO, funny faces. Eventually she will see that ITS OK!!! Mom is still there.

Unless she has colic or some other condition that benefits from moms' touch, just put her down.

REMEMBER I also said it depends on her age. If she is still bleary eyed from the birth - none of the above applies.

Colleen - posted on 10/27/2009




i have 2 kids,and they rarely nap at the same time so if i need to do something i make sure their needs are met and they are safe,and do what i have to do. i have learned that it is easier to clean 1 room everyday than to tackle it all at once, and i never let laundry get ahead of me. i also ask for help from others so i can do things with my husband, friends or just time for me.i don't feel guilty either, cause i am still a personand have my needs.

Heather - posted on 10/27/2009




i believe that nap time is mommy time! Especially when you spend the day chasing after a toddler! I just need a break, and to sit down. My sister told me this trick though, for when your cleaning the kitchen, cooking, or even doing laundry and it was a lifesaver for my son who has always been very clingy. Take a pot or tupperware bowl and fill it with lukewarm water, then set it on your kitchen floor and let her just go to town in it. Water doesnt take but a minute and a cpl towels to clean up. My son loved it, he will always sit there for atleast an hour just splashing and playing. I give him a few spoons and cookware to play with too. Thats the only way, i can keep him from getting underneath my feet when Im cooking or washing dishes.

Sarah - posted on 10/27/2009




my son was like that. The hardest is cooking. I had him in front carrier. I had to learn that not everthing had to be perfect and decide what chores were more important. Often times laundry would sit in the dryer for several days. There were times that I would just have to put him down and let him cry....oh how that was heart wrenching.

Naps are your time....try your best to put her down when she naps. If she starts to cry try not to pick her up right away...rub her belly or back. It took me weeks for him to finally get him to sleep out of my arms. We had a travel swing that ended up being a life saver.

April - posted on 10/27/2009




i have that problem and my son doesn't require being held all the time...hehe. We have an indoor play yard for him but he whines til I take him out and put him on the floor. I end up chasing him around the house and nothing ever gets done!! I too need to figure something out!

Marcy - posted on 10/27/2009




That's what husbands are for HAHAHA. Just making a joke. Wait until your little one is slightly older and then you go from trying to do stuff with one hand to running around trying to pick up after them because your house looks like a tornado hit it. To be honest with you, I make dinner at night (the night before), make lunches, try and clean up and get clothes out for the next day after my son goes to sleep or before he wakes up. My son loved to be held (he is 3 now) and I used to do everything with 1 hand/arm that I could. He didn't like the sling, hated his swing but loved the vibrating chair. I put it on the counter (I know, not so smart) and he would watch me make dinner etc.

I also have some pretty major shortcuts...I but pre cut veggies and bagged salads, shop a ton at trader Joe's and get lots of stuff that is pre-made and I have someone come in and clean every other week.

Good luck.

Megan - posted on 10/27/2009




do stuff wen she's asleep..or ask 4 help from neighbors or family and friends! i bet sum1 wood always wanna watch that baby and every1 wants 2 feel needed! so don't b afraid 2 ask 4 help cuz u'll go mad tryin 2 do everythin by urself!

Susan - posted on 10/27/2009




I learned to do a variety of tasks with one hand. Have hope, it did get easier as she got older!

Nina - posted on 10/27/2009




just do what you can when you can. just keep in mind that it doesn't have to be perfect.

you could also try a swing and see if that helps

Natasha - posted on 10/27/2009




Take it slow...I tend to do all the work when my babies are in relaxed mode or asleep. Because when they are awake your attentions is not fully on your work! It is hard but I suggest just to take it one step at a time...and go with the flow.

Invest in a will keep her busy and give you piece of mind!

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