How do you handle a 16 year old bully that likes to hang out with kids half his age?

Emilie - posted on 05/16/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




There is a teenager in my neighborhood , he is at least 16, maybe 17. He likes to hang out with little kids. My son is 8. It seems like he likes kids between the ages of 6-10 years old. Sometimes he is good to them , then sometimes he hits them and teases them and just is a straight up bully. About 2 weeks ago he hit my son with a stick and made a bruise on his shoulder. I told my kids not to hang out with him any more then the teenage boy "Josh" when he found this out he was telling my kids curse words to say at me. I confronted him about it. He has done good to stay away for 2 weeks now. Yesterday he started coming around again and I reminded him that he was to stay away and he acts like he don't remember that. He says the reason he has been away the past 2 weeks is because he was out of town. People say that maybe he is handicapped or something, that maybe he cannot control the way he acts. But he is in regular school and he is in the boyscouts. He has no father around and his mother is bipolar so she is not really any help. I am thinking about calling the police if he don't leave my son alone, but then I am afraid that might just make things worse.


Jen - posted on 05/16/2011




Its very wrong to bully kids but this boy has no farther and a mother who has bipolar no wonder he has grown up like this. You dont need the poilce you need social services this boys needs help and for someone to care for him he obviously isnt getting it from his sick mother and is acting out to get attention from anyone and is probley going to the little kids because where has he got with adults he farther is god knows and his mother is in fairy land.


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JuLeah - posted on 05/16/2011




I'd not allow him to hang out with my kids. I'd talk with the parents, talk with the school, talk with others in the neighborhood .... I'd be very concerned about this.

It sounds like the kid needs help. And/but, you can't allow him to hurt your children while waiting for that help to arrive

Schyla - posted on 05/16/2011




Call the police the very next time the kid comes around yes he needs help but not at the expense of your own children you shouldn't have to lock your kids up because someone is being being mean. Give him a warning and tell him if you do not stay away I am calling the police. and then do so.

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The first time he hit them... I would tell him to stop and talk to his mother about it. The second time... I would call the police immediately. I'd also keep my kid in the house unless I was right there supervising. If the boy comes over and doesn't leave... call the police for him trespassing.

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