How do you keep your cool with a child that whines all day long?

Chassidy - posted on 04/17/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




My daughter is 14 months old and is constantly whining or crying or screaming. Sometimes i just want to lock myself in my room and cry. I dont know what to do any more he had collic as a baby then she started teething and it just seems that it just never lets up.


JuLeah - posted on 04/17/2011




Somehow she has learned that it works .... she gets attention, time, food, something or she would not continue.

14 months is very young to 'explain' anything, but make sure you always use with her the tone of voice you want her to use ... smile and give a lot of attention when she is using the tone you want... when she starts to whine or cry ... try singing a song she likes and see if she will join in with you. She she is whining, try to give her language ... she wants a toy, and you know that, so ignore the whine and teach "please" in the tone you want ... wait for her to make an effort and then give the toy. She will learn in time, but it will take time. I know how that noise can make ya wanna scream. Play music in the background that you like and find soothing ... that can help

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Jen - posted on 08/05/2013




I have a 13 month old who is the same i give her food or toys or get down and play with her.

Blackwood - posted on 04/17/2011




First I would make sure she is comfortable. Feed, changed ect. . . Try to make a routine of maybe playing an educatual program or movie and sit somewhere that you are in safe distance. Have a tea or coffee, read a magazine or book. I don't think there is anything wrong with mom time and if the TV can help and the programs are age friendly then why not? Maybe put the radio or some tunes on softly. But first always make sure there isn't a reason for the upset and then that she is safe.

Heather - posted on 04/17/2011




My daughter is the same age and going thru the same stage! It's overwhelming at times and frustrating but I ignore the behavior. It's just a stage and it will soon pass. Good luck.

Schyla - posted on 04/17/2011




put her in her crib and let her be if you've done everything you can and you feel your about to lose it then put her somewhere safe and for heavens sake take a mommy time out. My 5 year old is one of those children as well and every once in awhile I put her in her room put the baby gate up and lock myself in my room

Elfrieda - posted on 04/17/2011




I ignore the whining behaviour, interspersed with periods where I focus totally on him and play with him. My son is 16 months old, and sometimes I remind him if he whines for food that he needs to sign "More please" or he doesn't get it.
But it's hard when they're sick. You want to hold them to good habits, but you know they're miserable and not at their best.

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/17/2011




agreed with the post below,i listen to a few tunes on my ipod sometimes jump on the elleptical too burn off some frusteration lol.

Firebird - posted on 04/17/2011




My daughter is 6 now and has Autism, so she's a huge handful, when she's doing the whining/screaming/crying for no good reason thing, I keep my cool by drowning her out with music. If your daughter has had all her needs attended too, put on your headphones and blast a few songs. Always helps me stay calm, when the music is over I can deal with my daughter with a clear head.

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