How do you make your nine year old boy stay focused in their studies?


Heather - posted on 11/21/2008




I completely agree with Amy. I have a 10 year old and we have struggled this year. At our teacher conference the teacher suggested that he has a lack of focus. I had to respectfully disagree stating that I felt that he was certainly acting that way but that I didn't feel that was the cause of the problem. I know curriculums are different all across the country, but it seems that the more moms I talk to about this, the more I find that this is a transitional year for students. They are getting to the place of learning that they need to study and not just do homework. Like Amy we had to lay some ground rules for what is expected. My kids already don't get to watch TV or play Xbox during the week, but we also had to say that sports would be out. My son was beside himself. Once I explained that when you start playing sports for school and they have rules for that, his whole attitude changed. He's still working on bringing his grades up, but at least he's motivated now. It's been a balancing act for me (and my husband) - learning to be patient as he adjusts and develops study habits, but also following through on what is expected of him. I think we all know what our children's potential is and we have a strong desire to help them live up to it! We just need to make sure we are keeping it all in perspective.

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Amy - posted on 11/21/2008




I have a ten year old that has recently had this same problem. We explained to him how important his education is to his future and that poor grades don't just float off into the sky when you make them - they stay in the gradebook and say something about who he is and what he has learned or not learned. I don't think he completely understood that until we had that talk. We also took him for an acedemic assesment. He is now receiving help once a week to improve on his reading, comprehension, and writing skills. In addition, at home, we took away everything he likes ( T.V., video games, playing outside, items in his room) until his grades started improving. Once he realized how important his schoolwork really was and that his parents were serious about it as well, he started focusing much more and is now bringing home the good grades that we knew he was capable of. He has gotten his priveledges and posessions back, but with the stipulation that if he starts to slip again, they will be taken away again. Hope this helps you! Good luck!

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