How do you motivate a 13 year old boy to study?


Laura - posted on 11/30/2008




Where can I get one of those cattle prods?!?!?!

Seriously though, good luck. Sometimes taking away a favorite item works, sometimes they need a reward to earn. Another idea is a set homework time where if he claims there is no homework, then you come up with some, math problems or reading or something, but he has to "do the time."

Sometimes all you can do is pray they'll live to be 14.

Corinne - posted on 12/03/2008




I'm working on this one myself. My son played football this fall which took up tons of his free time. At his parent/teacher conference last week it was determined that he did fine until one week after football ended. I'm thinking that he's missing all the physical activity and intensity of football. He doesn't like other organized sports so we're scheduling running dates with my sister and we're trying a protein breakfast so he doesn't carb crash and zone out during class. There is a website,, that has a lot of resources for boy-centric learning. Just know you and he are not alone. Good luck!

Amber - posted on 11/30/2008




I agree with Lisa. My friend's grandfather always gave her a set amount of money for grades on her report card. I always was jealous of her because my parents didn't do this, it was just expected. I know some people don't agree with bribing their kids, but it is just an idea.

Lisa - posted on 11/30/2008





I'm a teacher (but no expert on your kids!!) I find what works for some of the kids i've taught is finding things that are of interest to the kids. I've had boys bring in car magazines for reading/research topics. I've had boys use cricket as a basis for their math assignments in chance/data/algebra. Some parents i worked with had a rewards system for their son which was $10 for each improved grade each term. So if he got a C in term one in math and he got a C+ or better the next term he got the $10. Some boys are very competitive as this student was so it worked well for him, plus he really wanted the money!.

Good luck with your son!


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Sarah - posted on 11/30/2008




You need to figure out what will motivate your teenager to perform in school. Some teenagers respond to rewards, the prevention of disciplinary actions from their parents, and others are driven by their own personal desires to succeed in school. At your son's age it is critical for you to continue open dialogue with him to determine what will motivate him and create an environment that supports the results you want to see. Good Luck!

Malvina - posted on 11/30/2008




I have the same problem with my 12 year old. I decided to take away his favourite item, which happened to be xbox and make him earn it back by studying from Monday to Friday and if he managed to do his studies and have no bad notes in his school book then he earned time on it over the weekend. It is then taken away again on at the start of the week and he has to earn time on it for the following week. Not sure if it will help with your son but good luck.

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