How do you start a family tradition without feeling bad about not inviting your family?

Irene - posted on 04/04/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




We take family vacations all the time and my Sister is always apart of what we do with my 4yr old son. Mind you she has NO KIDS and she is the god mother of my son. I feel bad about starting a tradition without inviting my parents and most of all my sister. Will I overcome this? or should I just invite them?

I really want to take my son to Diseyland atleast once a year for maybe thanksgiving, halloween or xmas. Or at least have a vaca with just my husband and son. What do I do?


Elfrieda - posted on 04/04/2012




I'm close with my family, too, and also have one sister (unmarried, no kids). Starting traditions at Christmas and Easter with just me and my husband and my son really hurts... not that I don't want to, but I don't want to hurt my parents' feelings and also I don't want to go too far and throw away my nuclear family traditions.

So I don't have a good answer except just do it slowly, one thing at a time. Be honest but kind. I'm working on it, too. For a vacation it might be easier, just say "Well, we decided to go to Disneyland for Thanksgiving, so I wonder if we could meet a week earlier because we really don't want to miss the delicious meal and spending time with you guys!" If someone says, "Oh! Well, I'll see if I can book time off work." you can either just say "We'd like it to be just our little family this time." or go alone for some of the time and meet them for a few days after that.

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