how many kids is too many ?

Samantha Neil - posted on 06/25/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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my husband/ hunni wasnt two or 3 more at least so im just wondering how many would be two many

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Jennifer - posted on 06/26/2009

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For me and our family we maxed out at 3. I have a 17 year old boy and 11 year old girl and a 6 year old girl. I felt that with out budget, the uncertainty of the economy and the world as a whole that any more would start to impact their way of life. I could have had another and feed and clothed it, but then we wouldn't be able to go for dinner, ice cream or to a carnival or amusement park. I think those things are part of a child's life. if you can afford them then have as many as you want . Good luck!

Sharon - posted on 06/26/2009

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my best friend is expecting number 8 all single natural births, and all under 12 the house is noisy there is always someone in the bathroom but it is such a happy home i think u know your own limits and your body will tell u when enough is enough

Karen - posted on 06/26/2009

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depends hom much money your husband makes, and how much patience you have. Cuz you KNOW its you thats raising them AND taking care of the house too. You wont be able to work either - obviously.

Jenni - posted on 06/26/2009

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just take it one at a time!!! if you get to the point where you're thinking... ok.. 1 more is just going to be too much... you can stop... but u dont need to plan sooooo far ahead... just take it one day at a time and one baby at a time...

Cristeena - posted on 06/26/2009

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I have 7 and an 8th on the way. Do we have too many? Absolutely!!! lol but they are each perfect and beautiful and I wouldn't trade any of them in for anything in the entire world!!! I think it just depends on what you as an individual can handle. If 15 years ago someone had said we'd have 8 kids I would have had a fit. But with each one comes grace and patience. I couldn't be more pleased with my babies.

Jennifer - posted on 06/26/2009

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Depends on your family situation and your budget and how much patience you have too lol! Personally I would not go over 4 BUT that is just me..I have 2 now and dont plan on anymore but could never picture myself with more than 4. But no matter how many you have you will never run out of love for them :)

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I agree that the answer is: however many you can emotionally and financially take care of. I have 4 and wish I had 6. I know families who have 10 and do an amazing job. I also know families who have ONE but they are so self-centered that they barely take the time needed to nurture that one child. It all depends on the parents. I'd say after about 3 you have to be willing for your children to be YOUR LIFE. If you're the type of person who needs to have some other "outlet" in your life (like a job or going to school) you'd probably best stay with very few children. I don't see that children suffer from having lots of siblings, I see them suffer because their parents spend more time taking care of THEMSELVES than they do the children. If you are willing to make them your total focus in life, you can have as many as you want.

Ruth - posted on 06/26/2009

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I think the more kids you have, the less time you can spend with each one individually. I think around 3 would be the maximum - after that, I think they'd start to miss out on vital one-to-one parent time. I'm certainly not in favour of huge families, like 10+ kids.

Kelly - posted on 06/25/2009

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well.......i would like to have 6 total...my boyfriend(we don't plan on getting married) already has 3 from his ex-wife.....and we have 1 together....so then i would have 2 more and i am comfortable with that and somehow we will be able to afford that....it just depends on what you and your partner are comfortable with......just talk about it and decide.....and we also talked about what age that we are going to be done having kids at....i chose 28, that way i will be young enough that i will still be able to enjoy them when they get older....

Betsy - posted on 06/25/2009

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It depends on you, your husband, and your emotional and financial abilities to support their needs independently. We have 5. We want more, but we spread out our older children until we became more established and could afford them. I know manies with 15 or 17, and those parents can handle it all, physically, emotionally and financially. I know families with one or two, that are struggling to handle it, whether emotionally or financially, or both. Some people know they can only handle one. Some can comfortably handle a large family very easily. Same for being able to financially support and educate them. These are all individual factors that both parents need to be on the same page with in planning a family. It is usually best to take one at a time. See how things are going and what you both can handle, rather than picking a number before you even know what it all entails, which you only get from living it. You could say you want 4 kids, have two and know you can't handle more. You could say 2, but while raising them both feel you want to and can handle enlarging your family.

Kerri - posted on 06/25/2009

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im a mom of 5 so i guess it depends on what u think is right for u there is no set # that u have or dont have to have...... just what u think that u and the hubby want

Whitney - posted on 06/25/2009

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I totally depends on you and your husband. What do you feel is right? How many do you feel that you can take care of without getting too crazy and feeling like you're having a hard time connecting with them. I, personally, am religious and when it comes to having another I will pray and talk with my husband. We will go with what feels right. I want to be able to provide for my kid's well-being as well as financially. I want to be able to make time for each one specifically, so not one is left out.

Teah - posted on 06/25/2009

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I think it all depends on the individual/family. You know theres too many when you cant take care of them, either financially or behaviorally. So think about who's going to be at home with the kids and how they will interact together.

Nicola - posted on 06/25/2009

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I Would have Six if the budget would let me!!! I guess its all about how many you can handle as well but they are just so awesome and amazing to watch grow!!

Kate - posted on 06/25/2009

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Depends on your family. As many as you are comfortable and able to financially and emotionally support is the right number. For some that's 1 -- for some that's 20. No one can tell you how many to have. Although, you really should be able to take care of them all. Now, if your husband wants more and you don't, you shouldn't have them, or you should wait until you two talk about it a lot. My DH and I are going for 10 but that is the number we are comfortable with.

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