how many people find out what sex their child is going to be?


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Elfrieda - posted on 11/03/2011




I found that I was in the minority not finding out. I was pretty sure it was a boy, though, and I was right! We didn't even have a girls name picked out. (we had a list of about 5 of them, just in case)

One of my friends found out but isn't telling anybody so it will be "a surprise". Okay, chicky, not that it's really important to me, but if that's what gives you a thrill, keep it to yourself! :P I hadn't heard of doing that before.

Maybe if you come up with some reasons why you don't want to do it your mom will be more understanding (or maybe she won't, she's just dying of curiosity!)
These were my reasons for not finding out:
1) I like surprises, not that it'll be a huge shock. There really are only 2 options! We're pretty sure it's a human baby! :)

2) I didn't want to go back for extra ultrasounds, because the studies haven't been done that prove that ultrasounds are totally harmless, just that they "don't seem" to do damage.

3) I would rather that strangers have a conversation with me about whether I'm having a boy or a girl than asking me what I'll name the baby and then commenting or giving suggestions. It's much less stressful to talk about "carrying high" and "craving sugar means a girl!" than it is to talk about "well, my Susie named her son Damian! What a horrible name!". I don't like all that negativity.

4) I didn't want all pink frilly stuff or all sports and dinosaur stuff when it came time for the baby shower. Since people didn't know if it was a boy or girl, they searched around for some cute toys and clothes that could work for either boy or girl. There were lots of giraffes!

Good luck, and try not to let your mom boss you around. If she tends to do that, you'll need to be extra strong when the baby comes!

Dianne - posted on 11/02/2011




ive found out with both of mine, but didnt tell anyone outside of my mother and mother in law, only a couple of people were annoyed i wouldnt tell but i didnt care what they thought, we chose to find out so we could think of names, although did have the opposite sex name as a backup even though it was even clear to me what i was having on the ultrasound

Medic - posted on 11/02/2011




I found out with both of my kids. I wanted to have everything planned and decorated. I was more excited to find out with our second, our first was a boy and most of his stuff was unisex anyways but since our second was a girl she had a palace for a room.

SIIRI ABIGAIL - posted on 11/02/2011




i would love to know statistically how many moms find out and how many wait.

SIIRI ABIGAIL - posted on 11/02/2011




Thank you all! it is so hard.. my mom is angry that i want to wait to see... I love surprises and don't care if i have a boy or girl.. i think its a girl though. :)

Michelle - posted on 11/02/2011




I never with my 1st but did with my second as I wanted to know if the sex was the same or different.

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If I had been having a single baby the first time we 'might' not have found out, but since there were 2 of them we wanted to prepare as much as possible. They were quite stubborn though and we didn't find out they were girls til 25 weeks. Oh, and the tech that was checking had been doing it for 20 years and had never been wrong.... so I trusted he knew what he was doing. ;)

My son showed all his stuff as soon as the tech started looking... and showed himself several times. lol

Elfrieda - posted on 11/02/2011




I didn't find out with my first, because I was greatly pleased to be having any baby, boy or girl. Next time I think I'll be pushed into it by my husband (he gets very curious) because I hope for a girl next and I want to make sure that if it's a boy I have time to get used to the idea so I'm excited instead of disappointed.

Amanda - posted on 11/02/2011




I found out all my kids, I like to have them named before they are born. Though because errors can happen any extra ultrasounds i ask the tech to double check on the gender of my babies.

Sharlene - posted on 11/02/2011




Hi . me and my husband wanted to find out the sex of our 4 children to set up nusery . cheers

Tara - posted on 11/02/2011




I didn't find out with either of my children. My husband and I just bought unisex items for when they were born and bought a couple of more stereotypical "girl" things after they were born.

Besides, the ultrasound technicians can be wrong about the sex - I have a friend who was told "positively" that she was having twin boys - she had girls. Another friend was told she was having a girl "absolutely positive" and she had a boy. So, I just bought stuff that would work for either sex and let it be a surprise.

Danelle - posted on 11/02/2011




I did, with all 4 of my children. The comfort of having all I needed for them, outweighed the element of surprise...

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