How much help should you ask of your childrens Grandparent before you are taking them for granted

Julie - posted on 08/04/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have two special needs daughters (literacy/emotional) most of my friends say they babysit once in a blue moon and are glad when they go home both my girls have a boy each however they spend a lot of their time with me for example this week my eldest 10 was with me all week 24/7 last week my yougest 24/7 he's 5 I'm disable however I just get on with it at least when their with me I know they get food and good food. Neither of my daughter will cook they know how unless it dings in the microwave in max 10 or comes out of a tin the children don't get it.


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Louise - posted on 08/04/2011




I think you should put your foot down and say hey I have a life to and as much as I like to see the kids having them 24/7 is to much for me. My elder children are now grown and have never been left with their grandparents as none of them offered. I think they missed out but on the other hand my parents did take my kids out for the day once in a blue moon and it had such an effect on my sons they would talk about it for days. My daughter is now nearly three and has never been left with any one but her older brothers and she sees my parents about once every 6 weeks but she chats on the phone and my parents in law come twice a month and she loves to see them. Grandparents are a real treat to my daughter and she worships them I think if I dumped her with them often then the magic would go and there would be nothing special between them.

If I were you I would grab some magic back and tell your daughters that you do not mind helping out once in a while but you want to be a nanny not a childminder 24/7

Amy - posted on 08/04/2011




Well that depends on whether or not you feel like you're being taken advantage of. My mother in law watches our kids some week she doesn't see them some weeks she has them 5 days a week. Some days it's an hour or two but sometimes she keeps them overnight if I have to work late and then go back early in the morning. If she's unable to do it she tells us in advance.
My parents have taken my 5 year old son for a total of two weeks this summer and he'll probably go stay with them one more time before school starts. They live 4 hours away and they really enjoy taking him. Our parents help us out because we both work full time, if you feel like you're being taken advantage of I would express your concerns otherwise you are just going to resent your daughters. I think how much you're involved should be your decision and if you don't want to watch them 24/7 tell them you aren't able to do it.

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