how much per child for xmas

Samantha - posted on 11/20/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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how much would you say per child is acceptable for xmas. My childhood i recieved alot of presents from my parents because mum would say it was because our relatives were so far away so im sort of comparing with what my parents were giving. my daughter is 5 though. Id imagine its not getting easier with age

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Shannon - posted on 12/01/2009

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We bought our 3 year old one big toy and some little stocking fillers our 4 month old we only bought 2 prezzies for and they were for when she starts teething, seriously my mum and dad are going to go nuts with toys so I don't buy many and spent roughly $40 to $50 on Connor and $20 on Rachel.........

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Varinka - posted on 12/02/2009

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Doesn't anyone takes their child to the toy store and tell them to pick two items that they love the most?. I have 4 kids. My youngest one is 5 years old and we have a blast going to Toys R Us and play and touch the toys. we spend time together and talking about it. Then I tell her to pick 2 toys while we go through the entire store. Soon you will see how her choice of toys change every isle we go through. She will find the most amazing bear ever and in her mind that is what she wants, but in the next isle, she sees the Hello Kitty radio, so now the bear is not as amazing as before, in the end we narrow it down to two toys and those are the ones that she liked the most and gets. I do this to help her think that not all we want we need to have or can have. As for Christmas, we go on Toy Hunt Trip to see what she wants. I will add to her two gifts some small stuff that I know she needs and i know she would like but that's about it. Now with my older kids, is another story. They are teens and they usually ask for big stuff according to their needs, Laptops, ipods, etc. we will get the big items and let the family fill in the small stuff. Hope that helps!

Sheleny - posted on 12/01/2009

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its not how mucH? its how much your child will like it.. and if ever he wants something you could not afford this time you could always promise to give it some other time and save for it but be sure you'll keep your promise... but I encourage my children to divert/ or convert their gifts to tours or doing something extra ordinary from our daily lives bec. im sure these moments are memories that they can keep forever.. long after all the gifts and cash they receive have perished...

Becky - posted on 12/01/2009

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I agree with spending what you can afford. My kids are grown and I have grandchildern. We buy them small presents and then do something fun with them. Like for Christmas I bought them a DVD and then we are going to Disney On Ice. We do this for birthdays too!

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i would say but this only goes for me spend as much as you want an are able to spend on your child in my house we spend 4 to 5 hundred on my son an people can think im crazy but i really dont care in my house you get presants 3 times a year birthday easter an christmas an a few thing here an there inbetween those holidays so i try to make it the best i can like ive been shopping for my son since aug hell be 20 months tomorrow so its not like he changes what he likes everyday an im done an have been an everything is wrapped an that made everything alot easier shopping way before hand an then you might be able to spend a little more

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I believe that there is no "right" amount because not everyone has the same amount of money to spend. Its about what you can afford to spend with out using plastic or taking out a loan. my daughter will be two this christmas and i'm done shopping for her i spent $200 with stocking stuffers. but i also couldnt afford to spend more than that. i even used coupons i found online for some of her gifts. would i love to be able to spend $1000 definitley i even know what i would buy, but i cant afford it so i dont. even though i only spent 200 on gifts for her she'll still have agreat xmas because i put alot of thought on what to buy. whoever posted that ppl who spend money on there kids is because they dont want to spend time with them in my opinion is just feeling guilty that they cant do that for theirs. but they shouldnt feel that way as long as your child is happy and loved it doesnt matter if there arent any presents under that tree.

Betsy - posted on 12/01/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

I'm with you Betsy.

We eat dinner together every night, even if its in the truck on our way to soccer practice! Every Friday night is family night - we watch a movie, new or an old favorite.

My kids spend more time outside than they do on their game systems. Barring bad weather and time (nighttime vs daylight)

They prefer to ride their bikes or play soccer against each other, or me!, lol.

In passing my own judgement on the person who quoted you, they are uneducated and bitter about their own lack in life.



Thanks Sharon. Kids can have a variety of interests. I just got my older two to do rock climbing with me as a new adventure. My oldest has always been very into video games though it was monitored when he was young, and we did get him a top of the line computer last year, but that was solely because he was going into college, majoring in computer scxience and foreign languages, so it was needed to pursue that educational path. He has all the game systems, but his interests now have turned into designing games and computer programming. He can turn his interests into a career and still see his family all the time, go outdoors and enjoy a variety of other activities.



 



People do get funny about money, like that poster lol, but it's not only different lifestyles, but lifestyle choices. I have friends who can afford to go big on Christmas, but don't, but then during the year they spend their money on trips and vacations. Their money, their choice. I love Christmas and enjoy every minute, but we tend to prefer closer to home smaller trips. With all the factors, it is difficult to ask "how much" because the answers are going to vary greatly between all socio-economical levels as well as with varying personal goals. As long as the mortgage is paid, money is set for retirement, and college funds are there, I am not going to worry about Christmas spending. If it took away from the bills, future security and incurred debt, it would be the first thing cut. I prefer to enjoy every aspect of Chritmas from the shopping to the decorating, to the charity work and the religious celebrations. It's a wonderful time of year.

Sharon - posted on 12/01/2009

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I'm with you Betsy.



We eat dinner together every night, even if its in the truck on our way to soccer practice! Every Friday night is family night - we watch a movie, new or an old favorite.



My kids spend more time outside than they do on their game systems. Barring bad weather and time (nighttime vs daylight)



They prefer to ride their bikes or play soccer against each other, or me!, lol.



In passing my own judgement on the person who quoted you, they are uneducated and bitter about their own lack in life.

Betsy - posted on 12/01/2009

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Quoting Helen:



Quoting Betsy:

It all depends on your financial situation, your lifestyle and also varies regionally, as prices vary where you live. We usually only buy toys on Christmas and birthdays, but then we go all out. We spend more on the older kids because their gifts just tend to be more expensive. We have 5 kids and average around $1000 per child. I can't see doing it for $100 because if you do a big present, such as a game system or like our 12 yr olds big present this year, the Ipod Touch, that is $400-500 right there and only one gift. Our 19 yr old got a computer last year for his big gift as he was going into college, so with older kids, the items tend to be more high-ticket than what little ones need. For the little ones, we spend less as their gifts tend to cost less, or buy a big joint gift where they are so close in age (twin boys and another boy 13 mo apart) for their big present. I tend to hold off things we would buy anyway, like a swing set, for Christmas. I think you should go by your own budget though, which is individual. If you have it to spend comfortably, that's one thing, but it's just not worth going in debt over. I don't use the charge cards except for online shopping which is paid for in full that month. Paying Christmas charges the next summer isn't worth it, so just go by your own personal budget.





personally spoiling a child will make them not appriciate any thing in their lives its very do able for £100 ive got 4 kids they ave all had around £200 each an that is plenty kids that get shoved loads of technology pesents i pod games stations dont know wat real life is like buy them a games station so there out the way an dont need attention my kids ave a tv an dvd which is only allowed on at nite the day is for fun family games walk in prak colouring making things gettin sum fresh air an xmas is bout family time not showing off who got wat an wats better






That is a pretty ignorant assumption to assume that because a family can afford certain things they are spoiled or don't have family time. We are always with our kids, and they are not spoiled by any means. We spend equal amounts for them to buy for less fortunate children and are very active with them in that as a family, but we can afford some things from years of hard work, so we share with our kids. We are also very active in their education, about which they appreciate and feel fortunate, and from your post and how you write and spell, can you say the same about your family or should I make assumptions as you did? You seem to not take in account that people have different circumstances and lifestyles, and where we are, that is far from overindulgence or spoiling. As for knowing about real life, they have been fortunate to have had true experiences showing the world to them, as well as growing up, getting out there volunteering and being involved in charity work, which is more eye-opening than many children's experiences of understanding the world have many varying people in it, of all circumstances. Where did you get the idea that kids who have game systems never have outside fresh air time? Did you come up with that on your own, or do you claim psychic abilities to see the activities and lifestyles of others lol?

Sharon - posted on 12/01/2009

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It depends. This year the kids don't need any large gifts (bikes, gamesystems etc) they have all of that. So we will be spending less. Probably about $200 per kid. Or less.



My daughter is 7 and is getting an overly cute doggy bed for her pug, it looks like a flower, with an assortment of doggy clothes, yeah i know, but she doesn't like dolls, she likes dressing up her dog. The bed is highquality but I got it in a discount shop brand new for $12, the clothes are all summer things so they were on clearance $1 - $3 each.



She's to tall for those dress up costumes - so I'm buying an assortment of dresses and accessories, frilly pashmina type scarves, fairy wings, tiaras, etc. Discount shop $100 dress is $20.



She loves The littlest Petshop - so I found a ton of those.



My younger son - likes lego neoshifters, so I have lot of the little ones $5 ea, and a couple of the medium ones $8, and 2 large ones, $12 ea



He is also into anything camoflauged or has to do with guns so maybe a new airsoft gun and helmet, - those aren't cheap.



My oldest boy - now it gets tougher... he's not into toys. He likes his cell phone which is also his MP3. So I'll probably buy him a lot of music.



He likes his nintendo DS - so a couple of new games, 1 cheap one, 1 pricey one.



But you can't unwrap music and have you seen a Ds game? Dear god they are tiny. Maybe some gear for his trick bike.



and maybe some clothes for him. Which reminds me - I gotta order a jacket for him..

Helen - posted on 12/01/2009

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Quoting Betsy:

It all depends on your financial situation, your lifestyle and also varies regionally, as prices vary where you live. We usually only buy toys on Christmas and birthdays, but then we go all out. We spend more on the older kids because their gifts just tend to be more expensive. We have 5 kids and average around $1000 per child. I can't see doing it for $100 because if you do a big present, such as a game system or like our 12 yr olds big present this year, the Ipod Touch, that is $400-500 right there and only one gift. Our 19 yr old got a computer last year for his big gift as he was going into college, so with older kids, the items tend to be more high-ticket than what little ones need. For the little ones, we spend less as their gifts tend to cost less, or buy a big joint gift where they are so close in age (twin boys and another boy 13 mo apart) for their big present. I tend to hold off things we would buy anyway, like a swing set, for Christmas. I think you should go by your own budget though, which is individual. If you have it to spend comfortably, that's one thing, but it's just not worth going in debt over. I don't use the charge cards except for online shopping which is paid for in full that month. Paying Christmas charges the next summer isn't worth it, so just go by your own personal budget.


personally spoiling a child will make them not appriciate any thing in their lives its very do able for £100 ive got 4 kids they ave all had around £200 each an that is plenty kids that get shoved loads of technology pesents i pod games stations dont know wat real life is like buy them a games station so there out the way an dont need attention my kids ave a tv an dvd which is only allowed on at nite the day is for fun family games walk in prak colouring making things gettin sum fresh air an xmas is bout family time not showing off who got wat an wats better

Betsy - posted on 12/01/2009

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It all depends on your financial situation, your lifestyle and also varies regionally, as prices vary where you live. We usually only buy toys on Christmas and birthdays, but then we go all out. We spend more on the older kids because their gifts just tend to be more expensive. We have 5 kids and average around $1000 per child. I can't see doing it for $100 because if you do a big present, such as a game system or like our 12 yr olds big present this year, the Ipod Touch, that is $400-500 right there and only one gift. Our 19 yr old got a computer last year for his big gift as he was going into college, so with older kids, the items tend to be more high-ticket than what little ones need. For the little ones, we spend less as their gifts tend to cost less, or buy a big joint gift where they are so close in age (twin boys and another boy 13 mo apart) for their big present. I tend to hold off things we would buy anyway, like a swing set, for Christmas. I think you should go by your own budget though, which is individual. If you have it to spend comfortably, that's one thing, but it's just not worth going in debt over. I don't use the charge cards except for online shopping which is paid for in full that month. Paying Christmas charges the next summer isn't worth it, so just go by your own personal budget.

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My daughter is still a bub so I have requested that everyone get her one nice thing rather than multiple cheap/nasty things. My parentsused to have a limit ona big present - up to $100 on whatever we wanted but nothing over that amount. They still have the same system and amount 20 years later andit has always worked well so I am planning on using the same for our kids.

Mel - posted on 12/01/2009

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if you give your kids what they want they will be spoilt brats and not relate to there friends. xmas is about being together, the presents are just a lil something special, the younger kids get a kick out of ripping paper they dont care whats inside.my kids are nearly 8 and 5 and have never asked for something they just say i wonder what will be in our gift @ xmas!

Ansley - posted on 11/20/2009

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Christmas is about Jesus, family and being together more than about presents. My sister and I were not given a lot growing up and I am very thankful for that. It shapes who you are and what they will expect from a partner when they grow up among other things. I have a 7 year old half brother who gets everything and it breaks my heart because he doesn't enjoy Christmas the way we did. It is all about presents to him and he throws a fit if he doesn't get something he asked for. I would just make it fun. My son is only getting a few small things and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Gwen - posted on 11/20/2009

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About $100-150. I never bought tons of stuff, cause til they got done w/ presents from grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. they had more than they knew what to do with!

Jules - posted on 11/20/2009

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I gave my children a catalog of toys to read and I just paid attention to what they were pointing out to me. My oldest is 9 then 3 then 2 and 6 months. It works and you just give a few things that they are not expecting. Last year in total we spent just over $1000 for 3 children. We try to spend the same amount on each child. Just remember if you give a child too much one year you wont know what to get them the next year. :)

Melinda - posted on 11/20/2009

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I so agree.Christmas shouldn't be about spending or overspending! Get something they will enjoy and will remember.

Melinda - posted on 11/20/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

I came from a big family, so we were taught to appreciate everything we were given, no matter what! I think it is hard to say how much, because it all depends on every one's financial situation! Together with your childs interest. I remember my sister was horrified because my mother had spent such a little bit on my brother, just a cheap lawn mower....and had spent a lot more on other presents for the older kids! My brother absolutely LOVED his lawnmower the best! He thought it was great, yet it was the cheapest of the lot! So, it isn't really value, but rather what captures their interest. Good Luck :-)


 

Sharon - posted on 11/20/2009

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I came from a big family, so we were taught to appreciate everything we were given, no matter what! I think it is hard to say how much, because it all depends on every one's financial situation! Together with your childs interest. I remember my sister was horrified because my mother had spent such a little bit on my brother, just a cheap lawn mower....and had spent a lot more on other presents for the older kids! My brother absolutely LOVED his lawnmower the best! He thought it was great, yet it was the cheapest of the lot! So, it isn't really value, but rather what captures their interest. Good Luck :-)

Tarsha - posted on 11/20/2009

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my partner and i always disagree on this one, i was spoilt when i was a child and he hardly got anyhing, we have 4 boys so we compromise we spend about $100 on each child which gets one big toy and a few others and also get them something big they can all share...it usually works well...good luck and have a gr8 xmas

Amber - posted on 11/20/2009

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Remember you don't need to spend lots of money, Children don't care how expensive something is. It's just the being surrounded by presents that is the fun, so if you by one big present that comes apart, then wrap all the different parts up seperatley, you're child will have tons of fun putting things together. But then again, who can resist buying their children everything?

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