How old should you be to shave your legs?

Brianna - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 261 moms have responded )

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I have a 9 yr old that thinks she needs to shave her legs but i think she is way to young still.

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Patricia - posted on 10/13/2009

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good question... both my daughters have very hairy legs but i also don't know cause one is 9 and the other is 10.. seems too young but i don't want kids picking on them during the summer months when they wear shorts.. sorry i couln't be of more help... let me know if you get an answer..

User - posted on 10/13/2009

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wow glad to see I'm not the only one trying to figure this one out.....My daughter is 10 and has been asking me and I keep saying know because I felt the same, she is to young but when I think back I was about that age to and I looked at her legs to see if she really needed to or was it just something she was asking and trust me she really needed to....So this past Sunday night I taught my daughter how to do shave her legs. She felt to insecure with how her legs looked before so I really think its up to you if she has alot of hair I think 10 is a good age but if u can hold off on it I would wait....But just a quick laugh for ya....shaving only takes a few mins in the shower well Sunday nite it took us an hour but we laugh (to stop me from crying) and had fun it was a time for mama and daughter bonding....my baby girl is growing up still trying to face that fact....well good luck to ya.

Kathie - posted on 10/13/2009

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whenever she starts to grow arm pit hair. that's what i told my daughter. i said that was god's way of telling her she's ready to shave. it worked. she started shaving at age 11. but if she had been in cheerleading or baton, i would have let her shave earlier. she had some seriously hairy legs.

LINDA - posted on 10/06/2009

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our children our growing up soo fast now aday's, i remember my mom always telling me, there'll come a day ull wana shave your legs n underarm pitts, but as she told me please come to me first n dont do it untill weve talked it through......

so i did at around 11, n all my friends where shaving at this stage.....

my mom explained, once u do it once ull always ave to!!! n the hair's get thicker n darker.....after a long chat this scared me off for another year, and i am dark so it wasnt like the hairs were fair or anything,but no1 noticed n i was happy till t following year,

my mum refused to let me use razor's!! explaining cuts, possible rashes, n using sum1 else's razor by mistake etc, but she agreed on hair removel cream,the natural one from the herbal store!! which was great n we were both happy, then as i got to my teens i waxed....i am soo glad i didnt do wat all my friends were doing, shazing..n with out there mother's noing...i have my mom to thank now for nice smooth legs etc,

so my point wud be tat yes i think your daughter is too young!! n if u could sit here down n explain these things to her , mayb u cud put her off for another year or so like my mom, if not then mayb, another option is, there is a mitt u can buy at a very small price,for hair removel, its kinda like sand paper,tats the best way i can explain it to u, n u slowly, in circler movments go all over your legs with it, like exfoliting.. n this removes the hair.....i wud also tel her to exfoliate n use cream after words for the smoothest out come....hope this is helpfull to you, or your daughter

regards and good luck

linda kelly..

Rebecca - posted on 10/13/2009

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I didn't let my middle girl start shaving her legs until she was in the 6th grade. Just explain to her that girls her age don't shave them yet. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable handing over a razor to my girls at that age. The creams like Nair and Veet might be too strong or too "chemical" for someone her age also. You might also tell her that once she starts it's something she has to continue doing, not a one shot thing.

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User - posted on 10/13/2009

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SHE IS TOO YOUNG TO BE SHAVING ANY PART OF HER BODY!!! I SAY NO SHAVING OR NAIR...

Heather - posted on 10/13/2009

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my daughter is 10 and she just started shaving her legs. i think it depends on the girl. Kids are maturing much faster now. Heck my 5 yr old already wants to shave her legs!!!! lol Lord help us!!!!

Kathy - posted on 10/12/2009

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Yes, she is too young. She hasn't reach puberty yet which may make the hair on her legs thick enough to shave! LOL! Bottom line though is that you're the mom and you tell her when she should shave. At nine, what is she shaving and for whom? In the education business I see too many children who are into things that make them seem grown up too fast: little girls in tight skirts, heels and panty-hose when they are barely out of grade school and the like. Let's help them to be children for as long as they can. There is plenty of time to be an adult with all that entails. They will be thankful for your insistence later.

Patty - posted on 10/12/2009

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9 is too young. 12 is better. Rule of thumb: If, "All my friends are doing it!" It's a good reason for your kids NOT to. Answer,"Well You are My kid, and the answer is NO" Remember in this day and age that kids are doing things too fast, too soon, and they are not maturely or emotionally able to handle what is thrown at them. It all leads to premature trouble. If they can do everything when they want, then there is nothing to look forward to and trouble then happens. I raised 5 kids and have 15 grand kids, so I've been around, and know the lines. LOL

Candi - posted on 10/12/2009

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Really depends on the girl. I was 9 when I got my lovely "time" so I was having to shave already. BLAH! BUT I'd definitely wait as long as possible since once you start it's a constant thing you have to keep up with! GOOD LUCK! My girl is 13. OY!

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My mom's theory was this: "If you're old enough to be bothered by the hair on your legs, you're old enough to shave." And if I have a daughter, I intend to follow the same pattern. =)

Tabitha - posted on 10/12/2009

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I had issues with my hairy legs from a very young age. I always remember it being worse in pantyhose, it looked like a dog stuck against my leg. I begged my parents to shave and was shut down. I eventually snuck and shaved with the help of my stepsister the summer before 5th grade, but I wished I had done it long before then to avoid the teasing from classmates. My two girls are following in my foot prints with their VERY hairy legs. If they come to me and ask about it, I will allow them a hair removal option, but I agree that at that age, it is hard to keep up with shaving. For me, it was a time consuming task; however, my self esteem was so much better. I want to allow my girls that same freedom, when they want/need it only with update options that are easier to apply and maintain.

User - posted on 10/12/2009

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my daughter is 12 and i think she is to young to shave her legs. However i did let her shave under her arms. We are comproising by doing small stuff first.

BRANDE - posted on 10/12/2009

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This is def. a kid to kid based decision! My daughter is 7 this summer she refused to wear anything that was sleeveless because the kids at school told her she had boy arms...she has really dark hair on her arms and legs so I naired her arms and told her next year we would do her legs but she is too young now. she will put on a tank any day of the week now. Just knowing that such a small thing boosted her self esteem that much made it worth it.

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Hi, my daughter is 8 and has asian in her, im white as...with the tan skin her hair shows up and has been teased at school serveral times...though i have not let her shave her legs as yet as she is still to young. With the teasing its soon stopped as i said to her they kind find anything else to pick on so they look for things...that is over now and my daughter hasnt shaved yet... I think and some may agree is either around 11 or after they get time of month...for some girls get it early as we all know..so i rekon make it 11 ...

Monica - posted on 10/12/2009

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My 9 year old said the same thing! I told her she can start to shave her legs when she needs to shave her arm pits!!!

Kathy - posted on 10/12/2009

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The first question is why she wants to shave now at 9? Does she have extraordinarily hairy legs for her age or does she simply want to rush growing up?



My daughter had very hairy legs at 10 and played softball. After much begging on her part, I taught her how to shave even though I thought she was too young. Sometimes the hair exceeds the age. Now, she could rake the yard with her stubs.



My granddaughter now 10 asked me to convince her mom that she needed to shave. Also extra hairy and plays softball. (FYI for athlete moms, raspberries, dirtburns & road rash heal faster without hair in the affected area.) So having learned my lesson with early shaving, this time around I took her to my salon and they waxed her legs for about $30. I held her hand and then she was absolutely 'what-ever' after the first few pulls.



My theory is that waxing is non-chemical and it stunts the regrowth of leg hair so she may not have the problems her mom has later. It also only needs to be done every 6-8 weeks, maybe more on a 10 year old. I really don't know how long, but its been 4 weeks and she has no regrowth yet.



Personally, I'm not real big on the chemical processes like Nair or Neet because I've suffered a serious chemical burn on my legs. I'm fairly sure its rare and might have just been defective product because thousands upon thousands use it without a reaction. I don't know what the odds are for an adverse reaction, but I think its fair to note that pre-burn I tanned in 10 minutes now my legs barely take a hint of tan after days in the sun

Sherry - posted on 10/12/2009

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I should also note that neither my eleven year old nor my eight year old shave their legs. We homeschool, so there is no peer pressure. I have told my eleven year old that shaving is something I do, because their daddy likes it and when she grows up she may want to do it for her husband. I don't see any purpose in having my children shave themselves, but we also live in a cold climate and wear pants all year. So it's not really an issue in our house.

Sherry - posted on 10/12/2009

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Good question! I have a friend who is 40+ and has never shaved her legs, ever. When I asked her why, she explained that our culture tries to turn women into perpetual little girls and it's really perverted for men to desire hairlesss women, because it encourages pedophilia. Now when this was brought up, I had another friend who argued that she just wanted to look sexy and have smooth legs. Now, if you nine year old's reasoning is that she wants to look sexy, well then it's not appropriate! If you think that the cultural image of purpetual girlhood is wrong then explain that to your child. If however, your daughter has very dark leg hair and she just wants to look good in a skirt, then I maybe it's okay to let her shave below the knees. It should be pointed out that if she shaves wrong, she could scar her legs, so if you let her shave, make sure to give her some instruction first.

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I think it is a highly individual question! I was 12 when I started, but I have blonde hair. I have a friend whose little girl is 6 and she shaves her legs, but she is a VERY hairy little girl. I don't think there is a "right" answer here, it's really about personal preferences. Good luck!

Holly - posted on 10/12/2009

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How hairy are her legs? Has she started her period? With period comes hormonal changes including increased hair on all regions of the body, if yer arm pits are not hairy yet I would say no, until she starts her period.

Julie - posted on 10/11/2009

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Quoting Rachel:

My daughter is 12, she is like me in the fact that we have dark leg hair and a lot of it. I let her use the Neet Hair removal. It is better then shaving, and it also does not grow back as dark on my girl.


 

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well i would say just tell her that she looks beautiful the way she is and wont need to shave her legs for a long time maybe encourage her to use a less dangerous way to remove the hair

Brandi - posted on 10/11/2009

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It IS a life long commitment. And as we mom's know, it can be a pain in the ...

I think starting too young does make them feel, rather think, they are more grown up than they are.

I agree with starting when they develope armpit hair. But I also agree with the fact that it varries by child. How they feel about their hair and what the reason for wanting to shave is.

I can't remember when I started to shave, but I think it was too soon. I was eager to grow up.

By the time they are a teenager or hit puberty is probably appropriate, but again it depends on the child.

My almost 12 yr old is light haired. She has only asked about it a few times.

My 10yr old is dark haired, she has mentioned it more.

Neither have started shaving yet, and I'd like to put it off as long as possible for their sake (And mine! LOL!)

As for the nair or other hair removal products... Im not sure what the difference is. I think both razors and those products each have safety hazards.

Whatever method you choose, you end up with the same results (for the most part)...that is a child who is reaching a mildstone.

Jennifer - posted on 10/11/2009

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My daughter came to me in 3rd grade and said she felt like 1/2 girl and 1/2 boy because her legs were hairy and it was bothering her. She was 8 1/2 at the time. I looked into altrnatives of shaving and didn't really want her using heaving chemicals. So we tied that Smooth Away... its like a buffer that rubs the hair away. It actually worked and she loved the effect. She is able to do it herself, no razors, no chemicals and she can be independent in doing it. I told her that once she started, she was now responsible in keeping up with it. So she does it each Sunday and loves the girliness of it. I contacted all the other 3rd grade Moms by email to let them know that my 8 year old was now "shaving" so that when their little girls came home noting my daughter's newest step into adulthood, they would understand. My decision was not based upon my daughter's age, not her grade nor the amount of hair on her legs. It was soley based upon my daughter's desire to make that change and her williness to be responsible to effect that change. I must say, I was quite proud of her for discussing it with me and letting me know that she was ready to make that step.

Lesley - posted on 10/11/2009

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I would guess that I was at least 13 or 14 before my mom let me start shaving. And even that was too young because I remember I cut myself a lot - unintentionally. Maybe the nair idea is the best way to go.

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My daughter was 10 when she started shaving. By the time they get in junior high most girls shave and I didn't want her to feel like the only one not allowed to shave. I just showed her how the first time so I felt more comfortable than just handing her a razor and experimenting. She did just fine.

Bonnie - posted on 10/11/2009

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It depends on how hairy her legs are. If not too bad, then 13 is a good age. But some little girls may need to shave their legs earlier. But 12 should be the earliest.

Rachel - posted on 10/11/2009

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My daughter is 12, she is like me in the fact that we have dark leg hair and a lot of it. I let her use the Neet Hair removal. It is better then shaving, and it also does not grow back as dark on my girl.

Julie - posted on 10/11/2009

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That is very true! I remember how thick my hair came in and it is bothersome to say the least. When all is said and done the longer a girl can put off shaving her legs the better, but with peer pressure being what it is age 13 is probably the longest girls will wait.

Julie - posted on 10/11/2009

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Quoting Priscilla :

Tell her if she shaves while she is so young it will grow back thicker and darker than before. She's obviously only asking because other girls her age are doing the same thing.


 

Dawn - posted on 10/11/2009

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I think when the hair on her legs is bothering her its just wrong to make her wait for a specific age to remove it.Its just hair.Nair is good and your daughter will know that you hear her about things that bother her and can streghen your bond further.My seven year old was teased about her leg hair and tried shaving herself.Because her hair was so dark I then had to nair because she looked dirty where she missed spots.I then realized it wasnt so hard to just nair every month.

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my girls were not allowed to try shaving their legs until 6th grade. With the world being different now, it would be what ever you are comfortable with. just be sure to supervise the use of any chemical or razor at this age.

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my girls were not allowed to try shaving their legs until 6th grade. With the world being different now, it would be what ever you are comfortable with. just be sure to supervise the use of any chemical or razor at this age.

Christina - posted on 10/11/2009

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my 10 year-old has been asking the same qeation. She has blond hair so she really doesn't need to now and i told her that when she starts shaving her armpits she can shave her legs, hope that helps:)

Elsie - posted on 10/10/2009

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My daughter asked when she was young too. I got her an electric razor for Christmas so I didn't have to worry about cuts. You have to consider your girls classmates and is it something important to you to fight about.

Elsie - posted on 10/10/2009

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My daughter asked when she was young too. I got her an electric razor for Christmas so I didn't have to worry about cuts. You have to consider your girls classmates and is it something important to you to fight about.

Priscilla - posted on 10/10/2009

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Tell her if she shaves while she is so young it will grow back thicker and darker than before. She's obviously only asking because other girls her age are doing the same thing.

Ada - posted on 10/10/2009

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My mum wouldnt let me shave but when I started high school she let me use Nair :)

Tabatha - posted on 10/10/2009

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I am the parent of 2 teens and a 5 year old...my daughter became self concious wearing summer clothes therefore it was time...really cant put an age on it...very important for girls to be comfortable with there bodies. If its to keep up with the other girls thats a different but if its holding her back...why not. Make it fun and a bonding moment with mom and daughter. We have fewer and fewer the older they get. Good Luck.

Vicky - posted on 10/10/2009

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way too young! I think I was 12 or 13. I guess if it's really dark and obvious, Nare or something would be fine at 11, but I think 9 is too young to be worried about that. kids and razors probably not a good mix

Laura - posted on 10/10/2009

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I think 12 but if she has really dark hair and alot of it and is embarrassed...I would say maybe sooner. I would ask if kids have made fun of her.

Aundrea - posted on 10/10/2009

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I think that 9 years old is young as well. Wait until she gets in 5th or right before she starts middle school. Bc we all know once she starts she cant stop.lol Good lucky I will be there in a few more years.

Angela - posted on 10/10/2009

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Good for you! she is not doing it yet!! They grow so fast! I don't have daughters but I remember when I was in school, didn't have to do it until later, but I had a friend really hairy, her mom let her dye her leg hair, and it was ok for a while but later, she had to shave..because other girls were doing fun of her.. I guess it depends on the need.

Sue - posted on 10/10/2009

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when a young girl says thinks that she is old enough to shave her legs, 9 times out of ten, she is. If she is thinking about her hygiene and her apperance, then she is probably starting close to puberty, so I would say yes. Show her the correct way, because, trust me, a mother of 4 daughters, she'll do it when you're not looking anyways.

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When my daughter was 9 I bought her an electric razor for sensitive skin. It was great bonding experience between us because I was able to show her how to properly shave her legs. Plus there is no chance of her cutting her legs up.

Melodie - posted on 10/10/2009

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My daughter will be 11 in a couple weeks and she had been begging for about 2 weeks before I showed her how about a week ago. She had always had excessive hair but I never said anything - I just waited for her to ask and thought it was a reasonable time. I think it might vary with kids, depending when they ask and how noticeable the hair is. Besides, it was a great way to get her to make her bed every day (that was the deal)!!

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