how to deal with a 3 year old naughty baby?

Neha - posted on 03/13/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )




My baby is very much naughty and does not respond to our talks. On the other side my baby is very intelligent. I don't know how to tackle at this point of time. She has started raising hands on us to protest. Its a difficult time and has to be dealt with. But how don't know.


Sarah - posted on 03/13/2015




Talking means nothing to a 3 yr old. My suggestion to you is to looking into parenting classes near you. I would also not consider 3 yrs old a baby. That is a toddler and she sounds like a normal toddler.

Chana - posted on 03/13/2015




You can not "talk" or reason with a toddler, you need to have consequences for her actions and rewards for her good behavior. She is 3 what exactly are you calling naughty because what we as parents or adults may view as naughty may just be typical 3 year old behavior. Consequences can be a time out, taking a favorite toy away(not a security item), things she will understand and rewards can be as simple as praise, a hug, stickers, a special treat it doesn't have to be anything big. By doing consequences and rewards she should learn what is acceptable and what is not.

Jodi - posted on 03/13/2015




Um, yeah, talking is not a consequence. Especially to a 3 year old. Of course she is doing whatever she wants. She does whatever, you "talk" to her, she has no clue what behaviour you DO want (because you are not rewarding her when she does so the right thing).


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Dove - posted on 03/13/2015




Lecturing a 3 year old is pointless.... Technically a 3 year old is not a baby or a toddler anymore, but considered a preschooler in child development.

You can certainly tell her what not to do and why, but it needs to be brief (like... no hitting, hitting hurts) and if she stops... great. If she doesn't stop... she needs a consequence (since you keep hitting you will need to sit in this chair for 3 minutes to see if you will stop hitting). Then when the time is up... (remember we use our hands nicely... for hugs, high fives, whatever). If she does use her hands nicely... comment on it. If she doesn't... back to the time out step and repeat.

3 is a rough age... it takes a lot of time, patience, and consistency... but it is much better to get a handle on things NOW than to wait and create a real monster when she is older.

Ev - posted on 03/13/2015




It sounds like the other ladies have this covered. You need to start that now or if you wait a period of time you will not be able to control it.

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