How to Deal with Abandonment from Father?

Heather - posted on 11/12/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I sperated from the father of my children (3 and 6) about 2 and 1/2 years ago. At this point in time their father barely calls or makes an attempt to see our children and I see that it is killing them from the inside out. I never speak poorly about their father and do my best to remind them of how many people in their lives love them and it helps detour them, but im not sure for how much longer. Any advice on how to deal with this type of situation?


Holly - posted on 11/12/2012




well it sounds as if the father hasn't abandoned them, but is a barely involved father. my kid's father has not been in the children's lives since my oldest daughter was 3 months old, and i didn't even realize that i was pregnant. they receive no child support, phone calls, cards, letters.... this is real abandonment. How do i deal with it? i just explain to my children that there are people in their life who support them, and that you wish that their father could come around for them more. I tell my kids that their father lives far away, and doesn't come to see them, i tell them that he was in jail for hurting me... none of this is lies, none of this is manipulation... it is solid truth. I tell them i am sorry for it. i never tell them that he was a jerk, i never tell them that he is a dead beat, this is for them to come up with on their own. they come up with their own judgment.

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