How to deal with my older childrens' jealousy of my pregnancy?

Steph - posted on 02/06/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am almost 12 weeks pregnant with my 5th child. I am 27 years old & married to the love of my life.
I have A 9 year old daughter.
A 7 year old daughter (whom has laundry list of mental disabilities)
A 5 year old son & a 2 year old son.

I took my oldest children to my doctor's app. My 9 year old is so excited & I believe she will be amazing with the new baby. When she seen the baby on ultrasound, she cried because of being so happy. It actually made me and her more close.
My 7 year old didn't really understand anything.
but, my 5 year old son is beginning to act out in anger.
He's always telling me he hates me & he's been starting to kick me in anger.
My 2 year old son seems to understand to a point. I will lay with him and tell him baby is in mommy's belly. & he will say "baby" and point to my belly.

My 5 year old has never acted like this before & I'm at a dead end with how to deal with it.
I don't know how to make him understand mommy loves him just the same, no matter how many kids I have. He just seems to be shutting down on me.
I'm scared that it's only going to get worse.

If anyone has any ideas of how I can deal with this, I would be more than greatful for your opinions.
Thank you all in advance.
& if this is kinda bouncing around with words, I am very sorry. I am so tore up so when I talk, I seem to bounce around with details.


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he might feel like the others get more attention than him. You say you and the oldest had a bonding moment, he may sense that. Your 7 year old may be also making him jealous since she will require more attention just because of her problems. Maybe he needs some just mommy and him time to help him adjust? Maybe take him out for ice cream or something and try to get him to tell you what is wrong.

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