How to deal with the guilt of divorcing and leaving kids behind?

Gina - posted on 09/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi! I'm looking for advice, please help!

My fiancé Bill has two sets of kids...first set is a daughter, Abby (25 yrs) with 4 kids and Amy (21yrs) with 1 kid. Bill and the ex-wife were together more out of convenience, not true love, and stayed together for awhile for the kids. They divorced when Abby was 13.

Bill then moved about 9 hours away...a couple of years later, he started a new life with a woman and had 2 kids; Josh (7yrs) and Jessica (6yrs). They married cause she was pregnant and he was determined to make this didn't. They divorced when Jessica turned 1yr.

I enter the picture 2 years ago...I am divorced with 2 boys, 16 yrs and 12 yrs.

My questions to you are:

Bill feels guilty for leaving Abby and Amy. How can he still know his girls and gkids being 7 hours away?

Bill moved in with me which is 2 hours away from Josh and Jessica. How can he get over that?

With everyone being geographically apart and a wide age can I help pull this together?

He's a good man, just took him awhile to understand his priorities! Please help!


Michelle - posted on 09/22/2012




Set up a set time for him to have the younger two children on a regular basis and make sure that time is family bonding time, also invite grandbabies to come spend a week and enjoy them while you have them it can work it just means everyone has to work at it.

Michelle - posted on 09/22/2012




He should set up times to talk to them regularly. Get Skype and that way they can all see each other.

That's how my in laws see the kids growing up since they are on the other side of the world.


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