How to explain to a three year old about break ups with the father?

Natasha - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I need help me and my ex broke up a few months ago, basically to make it understood simply he's a dead beat who barley comes and see's his kids he rather spend time with his girl friend. Really there's two questions, he wants to take them for visits on weekends when he gets his own place but I don't want his girlfriend being there seeing he's 25 and shes only 17, and I don't want a 17 year old trying to play mommy to my children who I've been taking care of since he left should i really trust him when he says she wont be there? And next question how can I easily explain to my three your old that her dads a piece of crap who left on his own free will. My three year old seems to think this is all her fault and she loss him and he ran away from us cause he hates us all, he don't want to be with us. Like I know what i would love to say about him, but really how else can I explain this to her? please help


Holly - posted on 10/18/2012




i would just tell them that mommy and daddy will always love them. but HONESTLY it sounds as if you are heartbroken about the split and transferring your feelings onto your kid. THIS is not healthy for either you or your child. It's none of your business if his GF is there or not. you should not tell your child that their father is a piece of crap. let your child find that out on their own. otherwise you are creating an unhealthy atmosphere for this child. You just worry about loving the child, and not about how much you HATE the father.

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