How to get over the loss of a baby when everyone says that I will get over it and it happened because God knew I could handle it?

Valentine - posted on 07/14/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I lost my baby a week ago after she was delivered through an emergency CS due to respiratory distress. She passed on after only 2 days, she was so pretty and perfect and even cried immediately after birth. This is the second child I am losing as I also lost her brother 5 years ago at 1yr 9 mnths due to a cardiac problem. This time its really terrible because I had all the faith in the world that my baby would be okay. I never got to hold my daughter and I cant seem to stop crying and feeling so much pain. Most of the times I am online to see if there was something i could have done to prevent her from dying or if it was something i did wrong. My instincts from week 34 were telling me there was something wrong but the docs kept telling me to try and make it to week 37 but it all ended badly. What do I do to overcome this emptiness I feel?


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Onetraeh - posted on 07/15/2014




I'm so srry...I think it's a terrible time for u for people to talk about God;I think if I make it to heaven the first thing I would ask is how could He let these things happen?however maybe it just comes down to science in this case & her body just wasn't strong enough :(;I would think only time is going to help u so all u have to do is survive until thn.time really heals obviously not completely & you'll never forget your babies of course but maybe the pain will be lesser & I'm sure u didn't do anything wrong!you'll probably just make yourself crazy thinking like tht so it's really not good.well not sure this was very helpful but I do wish u the very best & strength to get u through;bless

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