how to help my 4 year old stop whining

Corrie - posted on 03/25/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have 4 girls, ranging from age 15 to age 4. I am having an issue with my 4 year old and I dont know what to do anymore. I know all children are different, but I have never seen one that doesnt like to talk. With my husband being in the Army, we have one meal together as a family, dinner. Each of us takes a turn and tells about our day. We always start with the children. Everytime we ask Cassandra about her day she starts whining and crying and screaming. She just doesnt want to talk about it at all. We get specific with questions, and she either answers them while screaming or she screams that she doesnt know what she did. She will be starting kindergarten in the fall and i am afraid that this might be an issue when a teacher tries to talk to her. Any suggestions on what i can do to help her?


Louise - posted on 03/26/2011




I think the pressure of her knowing she has to speak at the table infront of her sisters is to much for her. A child of 4 does not have a lot to say. (If you ask a child what they have done at school all day they will reply nothing) Take the pressure off her and stop asking her. Just sit at the table and say does anybody have anything to say and then leave it at that. If she wants to tell you something she will without the pressure of your turn on her. The simplest things to us are major incidents to a child. I don't think she will do this at kindergarten as the pressure will not be there.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/26/2011




I think children are differnet at home than they are at school. I know my oldest daughter is very quiet and shy at school...and the absolute opposite at school. I wouldnt worry 2 much about her starting school and having that problem. You know she doesn't enjoy talking at the table so perhaps you should stop asking that specific question and ask instead " is there anything you would like to share with us?" if not..then no problem and move on. I am sure she will come around and want to share eventually.


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Bonnie - posted on 03/26/2011




I agree with Louise. I have a 4 year old and when I ask him what he did at school, more often than not, he replies with nothing. If he had an amazing day and something that he really liked or exciting happened, he will share it naturally.

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