How to keep your husband attracted to you after having a baby?

Jenna - posted on 08/08/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a four year old and a barely one year old. I am not as skinny as I use to be but I have been trying to get in shape. I have been married for almost six years and my husband has always had a wandering eye. He loves to check out girls in their late teens and early twenties, he is 36. When I call him on it he denies it and tells me if I keep it up he is going to cheat on me.
I have noticed that he is now adding girls on facebook that he has college classes with. Young pretty girls that he tells me are fat and no big deal. But they are not fat, at all.
He tells me that I am beautiful and I have nothing to worry about but I feel his actions say otherwise.
Any advice?


Jodi - posted on 08/08/2011




He really tells you this shit? That if you keep it up he will cheat on you? Sorry, what he is doing to you is emotional abusive and is totally disrespectful and unacceptable. I am not sure what advice to give at this point, but that man needs help, and if it were me, I'd be looking at some relationship counselling, and failing that, I certainly wouldn't live with a man who had that much disrespect for my feelings.

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Ashley - posted on 08/30/2012




Yeah he absolutely should not be telling you that he will cheat if you keep it up. He's only adding to your insecurity. After having two children, what does he expect you to feel about yourself. I'm not sure what advice to give as I haven't been in this situation but I will keep you in my prayers.

Autumn - posted on 08/30/2012




I have been in so many relationships were I have been physicaly and emotionly abused. My advice is to seek help. If denies ya'll need help then I suggest praying. My husband has talked to other girl inappropriately and I caught him and stopped it immediately. Now we seek help and pray. I have my whole family asking me to divorce him, but, I love him. We have a 3 month old child and we did get married yound, he was 24, I was 18. We still love each other. He does not talk to other women without my approval and if I talk to a guy he sees my conversation, I do the same. I still have trust issues though. but, I stopped being Emotionaly abused by standing up for my self and my son so that I knew if he was right for me and safe for our son to be around specally alone.

Jenn - posted on 08/08/2011




I think you should listen to your instincts about your husband. There are red flags and warning signs all over the place! It sounds like marital counseling is needed. I agree he is being completely emotionally abusive and a few other words I'll keep to myself.

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