How to make sex not so awkward in the third trimester?

Sarah - posted on 11/28/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and up until now sex has been great. I have had the same frisky sex drive I had before I got pregnant and I still do. The only difference now is I can't seem to get into it or "finish" This has happened the past two times and I don't know why. I still want to do but then when we do I get seconds away from "finishing" and then I lose the feeling. It is so frustrating! I feel so bad for my husband. He thinks he is doing something wrong or that I am not attracted to him anymore. I have heard of women losing the desire for sex but I never heard of this before. I don't even know what to call it. The last time I let my husband "finish" and then tried to do it myself so I could "finish" and I couldn't even pleasure myself. It was awful :0( Will this last the rest of my pregnancy? Has anyone else experienced this? I dont know if it is worse to have no sex drive or to have such a heightened sex drive and not be able to enjoy sex once I start to have it


Nikki - posted on 11/28/2011




It happened to me intermittently in my last trimester, it all came back after I gave birth though.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/29/2011




You might just need a little extra stimulation to kick it off. Try manual stimulation along with the sex, it could really help.

Aniesha - posted on 11/29/2011




I think we may have had sex once in the last month before I had my first bub, but I came good after I'd had him. This pregnancy has been very different in that area, I just can't stand the thought of having sex! I'm 34 weeks now so I'm kinda too big & sore to do it, but I think we've had sex like 3 times in the whole pregnancy. My partner is good about it all though, he knows it's just a phase. Just be patient with your body, it's going through a lot right now:)

Johnny - posted on 11/28/2011




it could be hormones, it could also be the way the baby is positioned could be effecting your nerve endings. in my last trimester I was hornier than a teenage boy. but i couldn't climax at all. i got really grumpy. when the baby dropped, i suddenly got all this feeling back down there and realized i'd been a bit 'numb'.

Sal - posted on 11/28/2011




Being prey and having bubs can play havoc on your hormones and as a result your sex life I found I had done probs thx same and just had to assure hubby I loved him and there is more to having ex than the climax it is the closeness the being there for him and the rest is nice even if it doesn't go all the way and it will come and go over tome enjoy the good days and take the bad with s grain of salt

Tara - posted on 11/28/2011




It sometimes gets more difficult the farther along you are - we actually had to stop for the last 6 weeks with both pregnancies but I had problems with high blood pressure and signs of pre-eclampsia so it was doctor's orders.

Up until then and even right at the very end when I went WAY over my due date (by 3 weeks with my 1st girl and a little under 3 weeks with my 2nd) we just used different positions and that helped.

If you are really worried about it maybe have your doctor check your hormone levels - sometimes they can drop a bit and that will affect your sex drive and your ability to finish things once you start having sex.

Your husband really isn't doing anything wrong - my husband felt the same way when I had the same problem and my OB reassured him that it was primarily hormonal, maybe that is something that would help reassure your husband?

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