How to stop 21 month old from hitting and throwing things when mad?

Sammy - posted on 07/15/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son is 21 months old and he has a bad habit of hitting or throwing things at you when he gets mad, doesn't get his way the way he thinks he should, or when you get on to him. I have gotten on to him on several occasions by telling him no and he will run over to me and hit me as hard as he can. Its not hard enough to really hurt but I don't want him to get in the habit of hitting or throwing things.

A week ago my son grabbed a breakable glass off of my computer desk, I had just been drinking a soda and had to go to the restroom. My husband got on to him about grabbing my glass and told him No and to leave it alone. Instead of leaving it alone my son threw it at my husband for getting on to him. He has also thrown a plastic cup at me for getting on to him.

I have tried everything I can think of to try and break him of hitting and throw things. I've sat him in time out, tried talking to him about how that hurt and how that was not very nice. I have even went so far as to smack him on his butt a couple of times. All of it has done no good and he just turns around and continues hitting. He doesn't throw things a lot but hitting is a constant thing with him. Its even worse when its time for a nap or bed. He doesn't do this with my brother or my mother. So far it has just been with me and his dad. Any one have any ideas or thoughts on what I can do to put an end to his hitting and throwing of things?


Jaime - posted on 07/15/2012




I think it's pretty common for his age. My son went through this stage too. Consistency is really all that will help. He's trying to get your attention by hitting and throwing, so instead of reacting to it, just simply get up and walk away from him, and ignore him. I think it will start to sink in when he realizes he's not getting the reaction/attention from you that he wants. It's NOT easy and at times it makes you want to pull your hair out, but I think you just have to keep doing what you're doing by telling him "no hitting" "no throwing" and then either remove him from the room for a little quiet time by himself, or remove yourself from the room so you can calm down and so that he's not getting a reaction from you. I personally, would refrain from spanking because it's not an effective method of discipline.

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