How to stop you'r 1yr girl from doing tantrums (IN PUBLIC!)?


Mary Renee - posted on 04/22/2012




My first response is: You can't.

They say that the "terrible twos" actually peak between 18-24 months, so it starts as early as one. Tantrums happen to the best of us, and most people understand that it's par for the course and won't judge. Those that do are not important, just ignore them.

The important thing is to keep your calm. Stay patient. It isn't easy but the worst thing you can do is freak out about it because your child will pick up on it. And if a tantrum is caused by an unreasonable demand do not give in because it will only encourage the tantrum.

I think it's important to remember that 1-2 year olds are NOT miniature children. They aren't always going to respond to reason because they're not developed and they're still learning so much.

Here is a trick I have. It doesn't ALWAYS work, but it works often enough that I do it every time because it's worth it.

Say the child wants a toy or something off the shelf that they can not have.

I RECOGNIZE what my daughter wants. I say "You want this cheese?"

And she'll quiet because she knows I just voiced what she was trying to express but was too young to express. When she quiets and looks at me and nods I say,

"Nice cheese. But no cheese for baby now. Snack later." and then I immediately move on. If they're in the shopping cart I just keep going and maybe in the next aisle I'll point out a pretty box or a picture of elmo or something. If she keeps crying or screaming, then I move on to Katherine's technique. I politely ignore her.

The idea is to keep your language simple. Half of temper tantrums are caused by the fact that your toddlers want to express themselves and be understood but they're still too young. They know what they want, but they don't know how to express it, and they don't know if you are saying "No" because they can't have it or because you don't understand them.

Sometimes acknowledging what they want and suggesting an alternative helps.

Katherine - posted on 04/22/2012




Ignore, ignore, ignore. The more you feed into it the more she will tantrum. Just make sure she doesn't hurt herself. My girls did it all the time at that age, I just kept doing what I was doing and let everyone stare at me. If it got REALLY bad, obviously I'd have to leave and just pick her up and go.

But I'll be damned if I'm going to leave a shopping cart full of food because my kid wants to throw a tantrum. Make sure she isn't tire, hungry or bored. I learned that bringing snacks and making sure it wasn't nap time helped a lot. I also brought books. There were a few times I had to open things up and let her eat them :/

Oh well gotta do what you gotta do!


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