How to talk to my 9 yr old about taking things that don't belong to him without making him feel belittled.

Kym - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 9 yr old son has experienced alot of anger issues in the past due to being bullied and dad being inconsistent with seeing him. He is my sensitive child who looks to be accepted by his peers and his loved ones. Lately, he has been taking things that don't belong to him. I want to speak to him about it without him feeling embarrassed or belittled. How do I accomplish this?


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Medic - posted on 04/13/2012




I have to agree with Tabitha. There is no excuse for stealing. Just because he has been delt a crappy hand does not give him an excuse to run with that and break the rules. There is no grey area when it comes to basic rules.

Tabitha - posted on 04/13/2012




Simple: "Son, taking things that belong to someone else is called stealing and it's wrong." Whether or not he is sensitive or has had anger issues really is irrelevant. He needs to learn right from wrong and he needs to know there are consequences to his actions. Please don't teach him that being bullied or having a loser dad is an excuse to break the rules and get away with it, it will turn into a crutch that he'll use forever. Stealing is stealing no matter how you slice it and when he's an adult, stealing can lead to jail time. Stop him dead in his tracks while you're still able to.

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