How to tell my boss?

Niki - posted on 02/16/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am going to first begin with my job description. I love my job. I work as a nanny for a family and have been doing it for almost 5 years. I have seen this family basically everyday for the past 4+ years. They have become a huge part of my life.

About 5 months ago I met the love of my life. He is gentle and kind and loving and everything that I had been asking God for in a partner. We truly believed that our relationship was a match made in Heaven. In December we made a commitment to each other, with God, that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together and planned on getting married. We announced our engagement in January, everyone was so excited and couldn't wait to see us walk down the aisle. Especially our families. Everyone except my boss (I honestly chickened out of telling her about the engagement because of her reaction when I told her that Eli asked my Dad for my hand in marriage- so my wedding is in 2 months and she has no idea).

Now to top everything off I found out in February that we are expecting our first child. We honestly couldn't be more happy. This child is already loved tremendously. But now I have to tell my boss that I am pregnant. And it has turned my excitement and happiness into anxiety and worry. This is not how I want to feel about my first pregnancy and it really makes my heart hurt...

Do any of you have any suggestions in how to handle this issue? Thank you.


Amy - posted on 02/16/2012




Well the reality of it is in two month you will be married and in 9 months you will have a child, therefore, there is no easy way around it, but you do have to tell her. I belive the sooner the better because telling someone on short notice just makes things worse and you have already let time pass. I would sit down and explain to her that you had found someone and your pregnant and as much as you love your job and the family you are going to have a family of your own and you hope she understands and supports your decision. If shes a good person and cares for you the way yu do them im sure your worrying for nothing. The stress and anxiety isnt worth it especially your first pregnancy. It should be happy and joyful, so do it soon!

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